My kids father who I have been married to for over seven years and been with ten total. Cheated on me first a kiss then an internet this now a girlfriend. We are not divorce he has not even filed lol. I am over him but worried that i will not trust again and advice?
2007-08-30 10:50:14 · 13 answers · asked by SiberianHusky_8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
make that internet thing not this lol sorry typo
2007-08-30 10:51:16 · update #1
The only reason i have not filed fyi is cause of the money i have the three kids. He only gets them on weekends and pays no support.
2007-08-30 10:52:50 · update #2
He says he does not want me even if they break up. I do not want what i had with him he was abusive and cheating.
2007-08-30 11:03:23 · update #3
I dont know what state you live in but go see a lawyer so you learn your legal rights.
dont worry about the money yet. go see one of those lawyers that give free consultations. also, in some states, you can ask your lawyer to make a petition that would make your husband responsable to pay for your legal fees. of course, the judge will have to approve it, but just make that first step and inform yourself or your rights.
You will never trust a person with all your heart again, but eventually, you will find yourself trusting someone with most of your heart.
anyways, go see a lawyer or two.... and good luck !
2007-08-30 11:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never married but I was burned pretty badly by a couple guys I was dating (not at the same time, it was one right after the other). I was cheated on and lied to about it. The thing that really upset me was both guys cheated in the same fasion. With a girl in another state... first guy was a cowboy and he found this girl at a rodeo... second guy had an ex gf in texas and he lied to me about going to visit family in Tennesse. I got a call from the girl in texas telling me where he was.
Both of those incidents were over a year ago. But they were VERY close together and it left me bitter and angry for a long time. I'm still bitter about it. It took me a looooooooooooong time to trust my fiancee and figure out he wasn't going to do the same thing to me. So I dont really think i'm over it. I'm over the guys because I am in a very happy and committed relationship. But I still carry the emotional scar of being cheated on.
2007-08-30 19:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you get over it if you accept that taking risks, and sometimes getting burned, is a part of life. You can only achieve things by putting yourself out there, and by taking risks. It is inevitable that you lose at times - and every once in a while, you lose BIG. But you have to have the confidence to keep trying.
My ex-husband ran off with another woman. What am I gonna do - stop trying, and be miserable for the rest of my life because of it? I don't think so. I have re-married, and if this doesn't work out, I will probably re-marry again; and again. Gotta keep trying if you feel it's worth it to you.
2007-08-30 18:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing, but it was in our few months of marriage.... get over no it seems like it always stay with you.I would not jump into a divorce, get marriage couseling it will help you cope and learn to trust again. I am so sorry you have had to go through this it is a terrible feeling. Pray about it and try to work things out with your spouse. Good Luck!
2007-08-30 18:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by blueyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will always be a memory and if you do meet the right person, you will know and you will be able to trust again. You can't judge all men based on your one experience. There are many men who value marriage and are true to their wives. Men have feelings, just as we do and many of the same fears we have. Give yourself some time to heal from this - you know have an opportunity to begin a new chapter in your life. One day you will find the person who realizes how fortunate he is to have found someone, as you.
2007-08-30 19:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's never easy to start over and trust again. You will never truly get over the shock and upset this has caused, but you will be able to move on with time.
2007-08-30 18:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a dog. You are a human being. Thus, you should be treated like a human being.
Better than that, you are a beautiful, intelligent, and worth wile woman and mother.
Find a man that understands all of these facts and treats you accordingly. Do not settle for less than you deserve.
2007-08-30 18:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it when you find someone who proves they are trust worthy.
In the meantime, file for divorce and demand child support. Document everything, keep records of everything.
Until you do this, he will keep yanking your chain.
2007-08-30 18:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dunno, I'm asking that same question myself. It's been a year and a half for me, and just when I think I'm ok, I see them together and all the anger comes back. I think I will have trust issues forever.
2007-08-30 17:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
nope you never get over being cheated on.... whenever you think about it... it get you angry.... the worst part about that is you carry that baggage onto the next relationship............
2007-08-31 09:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋