i feel like i am letting him think that whatever he lied to me about is ok with me. i know that u are not supposed to know everything abt the other person but that varies from each relationship what the boundaries are. so w/o lecturing me abt he doesn't need to tell me everything please give advice. we were apart for 5 months because of his job so i asked him to download yahoo im. he said no he is not into all that but then i find out from his cousin that they chat on yahoo everyday. i asked him if he had any women on there he said yes 2 from work. do people need that for work. it was only thse two women noone else.then he made it sound like he didn't tell me because of fear that i might get IM TOO and he doesn't want me chatting. ok that was that then he withdraws from me physically emotionally for couple of months i ask him why are u being like this are u not happy. i had to beg for sex with him. he made my life miserable. then after susupecting that maybe he is talking details...
2007-08-30 10:43:12 · 13 answers · asked by baby doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and then two months ago i find his email account that he checks secretly when ia m not home and then find a myspace account. he denies having a account all all. i mean i had to literally go to the site enter his email and put forgot password. i get his paswrd and e stilldenies having an account. what more can i do to put in his face. it said 18 m single. doesn'tw ant kids. after a month of denying that he made it he said that he made it to check if i had an account on there. what shuld i do talking is done. he thinks everyhting is ok. i lost trust.:( sumthing that i thought a marriage needs more than love sex etc. what can i do/? forget that he lied and trust him and move on or teach him a lesson?
2007-08-30 10:47:52 · update #1
please get out before there is children . he says that he does not want children. you don't have to write anything on them myspace pages so that is giving you a clear sign of how he will react if you get pregnant and i would not want to be married to someone that would not want to take responsibility for a child he produce.
trust issue is very important in a relationship. if he is lying about small things then what will he lie about in the future. i would not beg for sex anymore he could be doing something with someone else and you could be putting you life in danger. i would get out before there is a debt that you have no knowledge of. If he does not want to talk to you then that should give you a sign.
2007-08-30 10:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by tasha m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having to beg for sex two things could be going on 1) he's hooking up with someone else or 2) you two aren't connecting at all.
In larger offices, some coworkers do IM each other so they don't have to use the phone or get up and walk to someone else's office for a quick question.... however, the fact that he's on MySpace.... you've got problems.
2007-08-30 17:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG
Your husband is addicted to the internet. He has found a way to cheat and tells himself that he isn't cheating. He doesn't realize that internet flirting is the same as cheating.
It sounds like you two need counseling. He needs to cold turkey get it off the computer and break that habit. YOU two need to mutually agree what the boundries are on line.
I feel a healthy online ........is here on answers. It is interaction with people but not too much, So, it is a detatched way to communicate.
Agree what subjects to search for.
Computer habits have broken man relationship.
2007-08-30 18:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's a big deal. Lies are a big deal in virtually any context. In this case, however, he is not fessing up right away, or explaining to you right away his behavior. He's buying time and then trying to justify be claiming to be worried about you. No way is that the reason he is doing that stuff.
Get him to start being honest with you, or think about getting out, something is very wrong here.
2007-08-30 17:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, of course your husband is in the wrong. Any dishonesty in a relationship puts a wall up between the two people and causes even more communication problems.
2007-08-30 18:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on sweety! I have too found email accounts, etc. that he said weren't his. I have lived with this distrust for so long. I believe that dishonesty is a killer for relationships.
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-08-30 17:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he made the account to meet girls, you can't trust him and need to separate. If he made the acount to check on you, he doesn't trust you, so you still need to separate. You might insist on marriage counseling. If he refuses, you haven't much basis to be married.
2007-08-30 17:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on it will only get worse i have ten years wasted to prove it and a husband with a girlfriend that refuses to put his kids before her.
2007-08-30 18:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by SiberianHusky_8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him he is obvioulsy not into you and is gonna end up giving you an std or something. Don't be ridiculous you know he is all wrong for you. GET OUT.....RUN...FIND A NEW MAN
2007-08-30 17:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to put your foot down, its love it or leave time.
2007-08-30 17:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Gena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋