A friend and I had a disagreement that ended up being big mess.Hell it caused our friendship.My husband & I, decided to take a trip to canada.During our ride I notice I had several miss calls & a voice message from her.I rarely had signal, so as soon as I had one I called her & left a mesg. clearly stating that I was away & will be back within a few days.Upon returning,I contacted her to see what seem to be so urgent. She began to wien and nag about he fiance's bachelor party & how much she hated his friends.I decided to hear her out then tried to calm her down & talked about my trip. She then began to attack me and ask why do I always act so perfect.I ignored her bridezilla episode until she began to throw in my face our friendship & everything I confided in her. I told her she was acting childing & to appoligize but she refused. I gave her a few days to calm down to talk thing over.But b4 I had the chance to talk to her my cell phone was flooded with childish insulting text mesgs.
2007-08-30 10:23:57 · 37 answers · asked by Authentick Wifey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is so stressed out at the moment as any girl is just before her wedding that I suppose the best thing is to let her rant and then try to get your relationship back on an even keel even if you have to make the first move.
I'm sure much of what she has said isnt meant, you may regret not going to the wedding in the long run.
2007-08-30 10:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you should rise above the petty squabbling and realize she is under a lot of stress and taking it out on you. It may not be right but remember you have been friends for a long time. And when she finally comes to her senses she will probably realize she was being a Bridezilla.
If you already missed it, Yes I think you were wrong. You made a commitment and should stand by it. If you have not missed it, bite your tongue and apologize whether you think you are wrong or not. Remember if she now hates all her husband's friends, she is in for a rocky road and may really need a friend when she find out she made the wrong choice.
Good friends are too important to lose!
2007-08-30 10:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by B. D Mac 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're right. She's immature and very likely certifiable. She has no clue how much your friendship was really helping her. Instead of being a life-preserver, she's an anchor. Be glad you figured it out now instead of later. It's hard to lose an "anchor" friend, but it can be done. Friends should build you up, be patient and - most of all - pay attention to your needs as well as their own.
Don't worry about hurting her feelings. She's a hurt feeling waiting to happen. She over-dramatizes everything and is very insecure. Wouldn't you rather have a friend who was a friend back? I'd say "good riddance to bad rubbish" and move on.
2007-08-30 10:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Serena 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably had a lot of pressure on her with her upcoming wedding.. Along with a lot of doubts it sounds like.. And she was taking the pressures out on you because she had no other outlet. It sounds like she needed someone to tell her what to do about her situation and you weren't available to do so. She probably felt betrayed by the fact that you didn't answer your phone and she wasn't able to complain to you about what was going on. Was it wrong to ditch her wedding? I don't think so.. Only because she should have more self-control in saying things and throwing other stuff back in your face. I wouldn't worry about it.. Eventually she'll come around and you'll talk about it. And if she doesn't, she's not worth the time.
2007-08-30 10:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but since your a friend I would try once more to see if she wants to apologize but tell her you understand that weddings are super stressful but she is getting mad about something that is not true and also mention about the rude text messages. If she doesn't finally apologize just leave her alone and I am almost positive that she will come around later and apologize. When she comes back to apologize just forgive her because weddings turn women into biotches. I turned into a bridezilla as well and if I did over again I would of just gone to las vegas.
2007-08-30 10:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sounds pretty stressed. Maybe you can cut her some slack. Let her cool off and being again. Is there something you might be able to help her with to bring her stress level down some? I know I was a wreck before my wedding. So much to do and none of it is as important to the others as it was to me so I started to snap at them.
Be a better friend than an enemy. Things will be fine.
2007-08-30 10:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Crunchy Sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a friend confide in you that really dont want to hear anything about you. They want to be heard so hear her out. I did the samething you've done before and notice it could hurt someone if they feel like your not listening. This is a critical time for her just be there for her as much as you can. Tell her you love her and be in that wedding dont let a mix up spoil witnessing something so beautiful.. Just talk to her and let her know that she is important and you didnt mean to be insensitive.Have a great day!
2007-08-30 10:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, I don't really get this question but I think you should work things out with your friend. You should apologize for backing out of your BEST friend's wedding. The thing is... if you make the first move in apologizing then things will be better and she will feel more comfertable with apologizing to you. If she excepts then you are best friends again. If not then she's not worth your time. Chow.
2007-08-30 10:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no it probably wasn't right for you to back out a month before her wedding because she really needed you there. but yes it was wrong that she acted like that to you but she was probably just mad at the moment because of her fiance's bachelor party and friends. try and give her a couple more days then talk to her.
2007-08-30 10:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by erica sears josh's gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's been your best friend for a very long time, try and work it out, she may just be stressed out and may apologize later. I would hope. If she continues to be a monster, then maybe you should just let her know that her behavior is unacceptable and that you would be a hypocrite attending her wedding. Best of luck!
2007-08-30 10:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lori E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋