I BEEN MARRIED FOR 9 YRS TO MY HUBBY, 1 MONTH 1/2 AGO HE BEGAN HAVING AN AFFAIR W/ A YOUNGER GIRL. THE GIRL IS NOW 5 WEEKS PREGNANT AND KEEPING IT. MY HUBBY DENIED IT TO THE FULLEST UNTIL LAST NIGHT HE CAME CLEAN..I NEED HELP HOW DO I MOVE ON I AM SO DEVISTATED
2007-08-30 10:02:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello,
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Time will help you to heal. You just need to seperate yourself from the situation and work on making your life better. You can do it, I did! I wish you the best of luck.....God Bless!!
2007-08-30 10:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out what you want. I empathize with you. Not exactly the same but some similarities to what my ex wife did. Finding out they cheat is a devastating blow. I personally knew that I could never trust her again and I ended up divorcing her. We are friendly now. No arguments and no hard feelings. It took me over a year to get there and I actually worked at that. I had to teach myself to let go of the pain. Again it took me over a year though. Can you forgive him? If you can't then get a divorce. If you don't forgive him the rest of your married life will be miserable. You might want to check into some personal counseling to help you figure out what you want. There are groups on the net that you can join where you can get input from others going though stuff like this as well. Email me if you want more input. Good luck.
2007-08-30 10:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I have been with my husband for 13yrs and recently he abandoned me and I found out he was having affair it has not got to that point yet but I would say go with your gut on this one and now do for you get life together and eventually the pain will go as you grow into a stronger woman. God Bless and Good Luck
2007-08-30 10:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by danaispeace 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The man is going to have a child with this other woman. If you let him stay you are going to have to share him. His time and money with this other person. Best thing would be to make sure you don't lose your half of everything. Because they will make him pay child support. If you share an account with him. I would suggest take your share out and put it in an account for yourself and children you may have. That's the other thing. If you have children they are related to the baby. I'll give you this site just in case. http://www.divorcelawyers.com
2007-08-30 10:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get YOUR priorities straight and dump him. Better yourself and let him waller in the mess that he has created for himself. Alimony and child support look to be in his near future. Start making yourself look hot and find a better man. It's clearly over between the two of you. So let it be. Move on. By staying around you are just blocking the blessings that you CAN have without him.
2007-08-30 10:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by legallyblonde3333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You been together for a while and it is hard to trust again after they become promiscuis and lie to you .It is such a waste to throw nine years away.But then it is such a waste not to be able to trust him again either.I don,t under stand why they play their silly games and sneak around with these promiscuis sluts who already know he has some one.And men are just as promiscuis too for not realizing that they have some one at home.
2007-08-30 11:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough, very tough, and you will have to will yourself to heal. All you can do. Do whatever you have to do to heal..whether it be divorce or forgive. But do not listen to the anger mongers on here who always suggest get a lawyer, take him for a ride, get all his money. That will never bring you the peace you need. Why do people always suggest that? So silly.
2007-08-30 10:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even imagine how heartbreaking this is, and I have no idea how you get over it. I imagine you'll deal with sadness and anger for a while, but eventually if you want to move on, then you are going to have to get past all those emotions. Good Luck to you.
2007-08-30 10:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the same thing happend to me about 3 years ago and i wasnt married but we had a child and then he got this girl pregnant and trust me it's gonna be hard but you really just need to move on and surley there will be someone out there who is going to love and respect you.
2007-08-30 11:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by norma g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE HIM, Take him everything he has, and then get yourself a hot pool boy and drink some fruity drinks with umbrellas and move on.
Life is too short to be miserable... get out and move on.. it will hurt (not saying in won't ) but there is no reason for you to be someplace you are not happy
2007-08-30 10:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by str8putter 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋