My husband left 15 months ago to be with the neighborhood sluut. He now wants to "get his family back" because the kids are suffering. Should I give him a chance? Did you do this and regret it?
2007-08-30 09:23:36 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do NOT do this. He is using you. My sister did this and it ended up so bad....
2007-08-30 09:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can let him spend time with the kids and all the parenting stuff, but that does not mean you too need to get together, for starters can you truly forgive him??? if you can you might as well consider another chance but I would not you know what the say once a cheater always a cheater
2007-08-30 16:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say I kept my marriage together for the kids, but I know I did it for me too because I loved him. Even though he cheated, hurt me horribly and said the worse things to me, once the affair was revealed and she wanted to stay with her husband, suddenly my husband realized what he stood to lose and wanted to do anything to keep his family. They use that card because they KNOW it's the one true thing that will tug at your heart strings. So here we are a year later and honestly, I wish I'd of kicked him out in the beginning when my feelings were still raw. The respect is gone, the trust is gone and the desire for him I once had is gone. If he were gone, I would not let him come back.
2007-08-30 16:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by buggin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? You would consider getting back with this cheater because you think the kids are suffering? What about you???? Do you really want to be with a cheater? Do you want your kids being brought up by a father that may very well cheat again?
2007-08-30 16:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No - it would not be worth it - trust me. He can still be a good father to your children from the outside. He probably hasn't been has he? HE left because HE was cheating - you have nothing to feel guilty over - if you let him back he will most likely do it again. You both need to be united when it comes to the kids but that doesn't mean you have to give up your sanity.
2007-08-30 16:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People like you need to be slapped for even having to ask such a stupid question.
Once a cheater always a cheater.... I'm sure this creates arguments between you and him and if he continues to cheat then it will cause even more fights yet.... Is this a healthy environment to raise Kids? NO WAY.... Use you head... it is better to be a single parent and raise the kids in a loving and happy environment than a Toxic one!
2007-08-30 16:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The kids will adjust and you should not give him another chance because he will continue to do this. He did not think about the kids when he left so why start now. You can take care of them.
2007-08-30 16:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what do YOU want? Can you ever forgive him? If not, getting back for the kids, won't work. All they will see are 2 people who argue and resent one another.
If you think the two of you can have a HAPPY future together, then it's worth a shot.
2007-08-30 16:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A husband who cheats is damaged goods! What will he teach his kids about faithfulness? They're better off without him and so are you! If you take him back, how long will it be before he cheats again? How can you ever trust him? You and the kids deserve better!
2007-08-30 16:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can take care of the kids together without being in a relationship..You just some harsh words against the other person..sounds like you are still hurt and pissed. You'll just sabatoge it so why bother.
2007-08-30 16:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, he made his bed with a $lut; of all things. He should have thought of the reprecutions before he did it. I realize the children are probably taking things hard, but life is not easy. I wouldn't give him any more chances to ruin your life, and for the sake of the children I wouldn't let him back in.
2007-08-30 16:35:42 · answer #11 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋