How do you divide it up?

Question

Should household and administrated (related to the home) task be divided up by gender or skill sets? How do you divide up things?

Answer 1

No divison here. I just do it all.

Answer 2

Some jobs should be divided by skill sets: you're a financial genius, you handle the budget; she's a gourmet cook, let her have the cooking; you're a master gardener, have at it.

Some jobs should be divided by who cares the most: she doesn't like the way you vacuum, let her do the job to her liking; he gets crazy when you spend too much on groceries, let him do the shopping.

And some jobs that are particularly onerous, but require no special skillsets (washing dishes, taking out garbage, changing the baby's diapers) should be shared so that each partner does an equal amount of these chores.

But whatever you do, TALK about it and make an agreement. Set it out on a weekly chore list if it is a repeating source of arguments. Don't let a little squabble over such silly things get in the way of your relationship.

Answer 3

First, I enjoy spending time with my wife more than any thing else. We have been married 23 years. I can only remember one time that we sat down and discussed what was mine to do and what was hers. She asked me once not to wash clothes. I inadvertently didn't sort the colors and some of her favorites turned a different color.
There are things that need to be done in a household. If one of us sees something we just do it. We don't use job descriptions or gender. We have much more free time, and when there are things to do sometimes we work together. I think team work is the most appropriate. The reality is we didn't get married or made a commitment to someone so they could be our mother. We have grown up and can do all those things that once assigned under "the wife's" role.

Answer 4

Definitely not by gender! The person with the better skill should take the task. Sometimes it is a matter of time available to do the task. If you don't work outside of the home, you should do a large portion of the housework. My partner and I have switched roles back and forth. We both do laundry and child care.

Answer 5

I don't think that household duties should be divided by gender. Skill... probably so. Because if I left it up to my boyfriend to cook the meals, we'd starve. But everything has balance. I cook, he cleans. We share other duties like the vacuuming and what not, but some things ARE strictly his and hers. I do the litter box, because the cat is mine, he does the dog poo, since the dog is his. When something needs to be done in the house, we just do it.

Answer 6

it should be divided up so that each week or two tasks get switched around and you take turns doing them. Nothingis gender or skill set. I don't know maybe I am confused about your question.

Answer 7

There are tasks we thoroughly enjoy doing and those tasks you should continue with.
IE my wife likes gardening, flowers, weeding etc.
I do to but I let her do it.
I enjoy painting, looking after the pool, the cars, and mechanical things and I do that.
The tasks we both do not enjoy we split and take turns on. These then almost become a competition as to who can do the best at the shitty tasks. Low & Behold they all get done well!

Answer 8

Personally, I prefer to do all the tasks together. It creates unity and prevents someone from thinking they got the harder tasks. If you have to share in doing something you really hate (dusting!), than your partner probably has to do the same.

Option: If you absolutely have to split tasks, do them at the same time. You still feel some unity and you'll be able to determine if someone has the more time-consuming tasks.

Answer 9

There are no rules. Its a compromise. Both should help with tasks. Both should take on the responsibilities of the household

Answer 10

Gender shouldn't matter.

GO with the skill level and then your tasks are completed with perfection.

Answer 11

We divide up by who has the time to do it. But i'm usually the one who gets stuck with the dishes and laundry. But he always takes care of the yard and the cars. But it's kind of however you want to do it. Sit down with whoever you live with and decide who would rather do what.