Because you were afraid you might not find anyone better? Be honest!
2007-08-30 08:35:19 · 42 answers · asked by friendly_funlover1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest? of course I settled. And now I'm divorced because of it. And guess what? I'm alone and raising 3 kids with a home and I'm 27 with a college degree and I will never settle for anyone. I'm the happiest I've been in my life. So if any of you DID settle for less than you truly deserve then you are truly denying yourselves true happiness and you are wasting your life.
2007-08-30 08:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Virgo 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I always said i wouldn't get married and 'settle down'. I was so scared that i'd be doing it for the wrong reasons, security and comfort etc... I met a few guys that i could easily have 'settled' with, they loved me to bits, but i was just never convinced. But when i met my, now, husband he blew me away. I just knew he was the best thing in the world. We have been together for nearly 5 years, married for 2 and baby number 1 is due in a few weeks. I sometimes wonder where i'd be if we hadn't got married, and so does he, but i know whatever else would have happened in my life i would not be anywhere near as happy as I am now. Everytime i look at him i am reminded how lucky i am to have met someone so gorgeous and someone who is my best friend.
2007-08-30 19:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Vic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't think I did at the time (almost 20 years ago), but she apparently did. Her momma told her I would be a "good provider", which turned out to be true. What I was lacking, apparently, was the ability to be truly "present" and sufficiently attentive to her for a lasting connection. We were both pretty good at playing our respective roles, but after about 14 years and children, she got very frustrated and angry. She was eventually open to and manipulated into an affair (which I was too self-absorbed to realize.) The affair is now over (after several years), and we are attempting to figure out if there's enough substance in our relationship to move on, make things "real" and stay together for reasons other than co-parenting. Not a path I would wish for anyone!
I agree wholeheartedly with those who say "Never settle" and would add "Never get married just because you think "its time" in terms of age or length of relationship, or the opinion of your mother.
2007-08-30 08:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jack07 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No...I didn't settle for my husband! I can say that I've settled in past relationships, and I can say that my first marriage was immature (considering I was 17 and he was 18), therefore causing us to marry based on wrong reasons. As I matured and experienced different relationships, I became certain as to what "exactly" I was looking for. I also had to learn not to look for love but to let love find me and it did...happiness, like a butterfly, settles upon you, when least expected! I now am married to a man that may not be perfect, but is perfect for me and my 2 daughters. I accept him and his flaws at 100%, just as he does me...it don't get no better!!!
2007-08-30 09:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be hoest, Yes I married my husband on the fact that I thougt he was the one and I probly would never ever find anyone better. After 6 1/2 yrs of marriage we are very strong. For the longest time I thougt to myself that it was a mistake to marry him, and now I do not think that. I lover my Husband very much. I truly believe you should not get married unless you know for sure that is what you want and that you really love the person and that person is the only thing you see.. Good luck
2007-08-30 08:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lovingwolves25 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good question and one that people should ask before they do get married. Never, ever settle for less than what you want. And no, I definetly did not settle; I waited 6.5 years before marrying him and I love and adore him and am lucky to have such a man.
2007-08-30 08:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I dated for over 12 years before I found the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We have been married 11 years.
2007-08-30 14:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. After I had my "waiting to exhale" moment, I did some soul searching. I finally realized that my friend (my husband now) who had seen me at my best and at my worst, was there all the time. I truly believed he was the man I was supposed to be with and eventually married. I haven't regretted my decision for one moment.
2007-08-30 08:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by ladyhawk_1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is my best friend. I could never be closer to anyone like I am with him. There are no secrets and we know everything about one another. He's my soulmate. Granted we have lots of things to work on, but we are both willing to do so for each other.
2007-08-30 08:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first husband I was too young. My husband now I chose and love very much. Definately did not settle.
2007-08-30 08:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋