Okay....this is kind of personal thing and all, and I don't want to be graphic in this question but..here it goes..
I'm 23yrsold, during intercourse with my b/f lately, while being on top, we get a pretty solid rhythm going, then I get this tingling sensation, it feels good but i suddenly get scared, I feel like I'm going to lose control, and my legs start to shake. I get tense and at that point we usually slow down a bit. I don't want to stop, but I reach that edge and the tingly feeling is both so good and so bad?? I feel like I'm going to lose control and the shaking is just uncontrollable! I want to let myself go so bad, but I'm so afraid? I think I'm on the verge of a gspot orgasm because I've never felt this way before. How can I over come this "locking up" mechanism that I seem to do right on the verge of it being so good?! I am very relaxed, I trust my b/f, I can reach a clitoral orgasm just fine without him, but this intercourse feeling i'm getting is different now,
2007-08-30 08:31:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I can "feel it" more and the tingling feeling is more prominent with me on top. And always, before sex, I have clitoral stimulation so I'm ready/prepared. Everything is great, it's just how do I LET GO?! Someone tell me please!! lol Should I get drunk or smoke some pot beforehand so I'l be really less tense? I hate this locking up thing that I do! It leaves me so frusterated. Any suggestions?! Thanks
2007-08-30 08:34:24 · update #1
Good for you for recognizing the difference between orgasms. Most women can have clitoral orgasms, but many never experience a vaginal orgasm or a g-spot orgasm.
The "letting go" part can be frustrating. The fact that you trust your partner and are relaxed is a major part of the experience. The rest will come (no pun intended) with time and practice.
There's no one technique that works for all women. Just continue with what you are doing and try to focus on breathing when the urge to "lock up" comes over you. Have fun :-)
2007-08-30 08:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your legs are shaking because you're on top and supporting your weight.
You don't need to be on top to have a vaginal (or g-spot) orgasm - you can have them in any position, with or without a man. Penetration is deeper in this position and you're in control.
Drinking/smoking - not the answer - you aren't inhibited. You just like the feeling and don't really want it to stop - it's like riding the crest of a wave ..
Just keep at it - there's nothing wrong and you aren't locking up. You're workin it. When you get tired, change position - let him do the work while you shake n scream n go wild :P
2007-08-30 08:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by pepper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time, and practice (which in this case, practice is definately not a problem). Also, a lot of women have trouble because there is the sensation like you have to pee, which makes it hard to let go. Once you get past that, you feel really good. I would recommend going to the bathroom before you get started so when you get that feeling, you can know you don't need to pee, and that will help put your mind at ease. Other than that, you just have to keep going, even when it starts to be an almost bad feeling, because then it is REALLY good!
2007-08-30 08:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kir S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey believe me once you go all the way with those feelings you will always want to get off like that. Let yourself lose control, if you are so close then have your boyfriend finish it up for you. I know sometimes my boyfriend has to roll us over so he can give me that special orgasm and it is so wonderful. Especially if you both can get off at the same time. GL and let it just take over your body, nothing bad is going to happen.
P.S. there will be no problem locking up if your drunk or high, I know personal experiences.
2007-08-30 08:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Trinidy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feeel that way concentrate and try to get an orgasm let go and take a deep breathe, this will make your orgasm last longer.
Good luck! ;D
2007-08-30 08:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Madison♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A variation, of the female superior position may help. After climbing on top of your partner, and achieving penetration, carefully, swing one leg forward at a time. Please, be sure not to lean back too far, while swinging your legs forward. Leaning back too far, may result in injury to your partner.
You are in the desired variation, of the female superior position, if you can put your feet on your partner's shoulders. This position enhances stimulation to your G-spot, gives you free access to your clitoris, and removes strain from your legs. You are literally sitting on your partner's legs.
2007-09-01 14:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Larry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right on this ....you're on the verge of something great. Try to relax....when you can you'll just let go...or give in.....its not easy for most women to do. You might even have an emission....it's a mental block so Im sure you'll overcome it. its' ok.....youre not the first...good luck.
2007-08-30 08:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows that you are holding back because you are nervous. Once he knows you are nervous about it, you might not be as much...But just let it go - it's way better than a clit orgasm.
2007-08-30 08:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont Stop! Just hug him REAL tight, that will help with the shaking.
2007-08-30 08:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let go! what's the worst that could happen?
2007-08-30 08:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by nurse2b-tiffb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋