No friends?

Question

I moved schools last year and i havent made any friends. I am always on my own and depressed. When it was my first week i had someone that was looking after me and then 3 weeks later her and her friends just ditched me. That really upset me and i cant stop thinking about it. It is a really small school like theres 20 people in my year and they all have their friendship groups. Someone else who started before me has got friends and she was one of the ones who left me on my own. I think she is so selfish and horrible. What is wrong with me? Why should she have friends if she is horrible. Im not horrible. I treat people like humans- not like dirt. I cant sleep now because im dreading next week. What am i going to do with myself? I have 2 years left at school and i cant wait to leave. I cant take it anymore. Im just feeling so depressed now. Im probarly going to fail my GCSE's now because im so unhappy at school. Please anyone help.
Thanks

Answer 1

Don't be sad! Stand up! JUST BE YOUR SELF! You have your value as person! Go ahead face than and make new friends!

Go girl!

Answer 2

I understand this one too well. I feel for you. Try your best to put your focus on something that makes you happy and try not to think too much about whether or not your classmates like you. If you can make yourself genuinely happy, you'll attract others AND you'll attract a better group of people.
You sound mature for your age and sometimes it can be rough when you can't see a point in behaving like a simpleton when all your classmates are.

Life has a way of closing one door and another opens. Give yourself a break and talk to someone who has encouraging words, maybe a family member or relative.

I had 1 friend all through high school and was bullied terribly. I almost quit because it was 4 years and I only had that 1 friend for 1 year of it until she moved away. My only real advice from experience - because it's been a long time since I was in school -is whatever you do, don't quit your studies.
Think of this time as temporary and try to focus on the learning part of it and it will serve you well when you get older. You'll be able to be higher paid and have a better quality of life.

Remember this one also: "This too shall pass" Everything passes, the good and the bad times.

Answer 3

I remember when I started boarding school I had no friend at all and no one even made an effort because I was from another country and honestly I remember crying myself to sleep. Then one day I got up and decided enough is enough so I started directing my attention to what was important, my studies. In the end a lot of my class mates found that my intelligence was so charismatic that I left that school the most popular girl. Maybe this may not help you in any way but what I am trying to say is friends don't define you your actions does so don't let these people bomb u out okay!

Answer 4

Moving schools and trying to make new friends can be hard but it can be done so don't despair. Try joining any clubs that your school has in a subject you enjoy maybe choir, chess, anything really. I always find when you join a club there is people with similar interests and attitude to yourself so you have a common interest from the start. Try not to come across as desperate for friends (I'm not saying you are doing this!) but people can pick up on it and it can put them off. Just join the club and take it from there, you will find that you get chatting to other kids about the club and then onto other things your interested in and will probably get invited to things like party's, the cinema etc. But you can ask them as well don't always wait for someone to ask you first. As for your so called Friends who dumped you they weren't really friends anyway who needs friends like that! If you really are feeling depressed it might be worth talking to your parents, a teacher you like or even your doctor. Remember everyone has felt like you do at some point in their life so your not alone! Take care, hope this helps.

Answer 5

Well, I used to have a really hard time making friends, but last year, things just suddenly fell into place. I now have a really great group of people that I know I can go to for anything. I can't guarantee that this will happen for you, but it could. You definitely can't just sit there, though. Try to find a group of people that seem kinda like you. Also, who knows--there could be someone else around in the same situation as you. Maybe you should look beyond your own grade--I have a lot of friends in the grades above and below mine. Above all, try to look past this and into the future. Two years probably seems like a long time, but once you leave, you will go on to college and meet an entirely new group of people. If things don't work out now, use your school work as something to hide behind (throw yourself into it). That will, at least, distract you a little. I can't guarantee things will work out, but you have to give it a chance.

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Answer 6

I know how you feel. My parents sent me to aprivate school in 10th grade and everyone was mean to me. I cried everyday but it was wierd, only the girls were mean. The guys were much nicer. Hopefully with a little more time, you will make atleast a few gf's. If they are absolute jerks then realize that and try and meet nicer people somewhere else. All you can do is be your self!
And , if you have the guts- ask that one girl to hang out after classes one day. The worst thing that can happen is she can't and then you'll know that these girls are not the type of people you want to hang around with anyway! Good Luck! And be Happy! Remember school is for learning, not socialiazing. Once you hit college, everything will be different! I promise!
PS. Dont let the cliqey girls know that this upsets you. Act like you have better things to do!

Answer 7

One time when I switched schools, I didn't make any friends. The class was very clickish. I was younger than you are now, but I know how that feels. It sucks and you want to cry everyday. I hung around the the girls who were on the outs, also,(about 3 others) and I found they were pretty good friends. It didn't stay that way forever and I went on, but for that time, it really was hurtful.

The only thing I can say is keep your chin up, be yourself. If it never changes, just know that you are not a horrible person as you said and this is just a phase in your life.

*hug*

Answer 8

Friends are SO over-rated.

I changed school when I was 14. And got into loads of trouble at the start of my new school. I made some friends, but they weren't the sort of friends I wanted to hang around with. So I dumped them, and got my head down for two years. I studied hard, and looked to the future.

People come and go in life. Sometimes you'll meet someone who wants to be your friend just as much as you want to be theirs. Then you have a friend for life. You have plenty of time to meet many such friends, so don't worry about those idiots who can't see what a wonderful friend you could be.

Get your education, get a wonderful career (as a vet I'd guess by your name), and enjoy your life.

One day you will have so many good friends. And what you're feeling right now will just be a distant memory.

Keep your head held high, and greet the world with a confident smile. You're going places.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with you, stop being so hard on yourself. You are a wonderful person and you need to have more self confidence. We can not control who likes us or dislikes us.The only thing you can control is how you react when faced with these situations. Self pity is no good, stop feeling sorry for your self, stop worrying about these girls also. So what they don't want to be friends, move on seek out new people in other places. And think about it, do you think these girls are not sleeping because they fill bad about you? No, so you stop focusing on them and this whole situation. Things may seem bad for a little while but you are young, smart, and it's there lost not yours. Learn to make the best out of a bad situation, never let people, situations, nor circumstances determine your outcome. You can and will make some good friends, just be yourself, be positive, and move on. Good luck you can do it!

Answer 10

Try to keep your chin up, I moved the summer between my sophomore and senior year....it is hard but you will be fine. It seems hard right now, but I am sure with time it will get better.
Are there any groups you can join?? You know like drama....volunteer groups?? Is there something out side of school that may introduce you to new people?? How about a part time job?
I would have to say that there is nothing wrong with you...so don't beat yourself up. You are just dealing with a selfish age group right now.....that is just a fact of life. Do what you can to reach out and try new things and activities and before you know it.......you will find some new people to hang out with. My heart goes out to you because I remember being the new girl and not knowing ANYBODY. Time fixed that.....all you can do is be patient.

Answer 11

Try not to show your worried about it and don't try to hard.
Looking desperate will only put people off.
Teenage girls can be very clicky which each other i have 2 nieces a similar age to you.
Can you get involved with any of the girls outside of school?
Maybe throw a party or have a Barbecue.
Can your parents help?you must talk to someone before the depression sets in.
Is there any after school activities you could join?
Try and relax regarding your exams I'm sure you will be fine.
Good luck and i hope you meet/make lots of friends soon.