My boyfriend andI has been together for the last 6 years and have been liveing together for 5 of those years. We are to get married next spring and what I just found out yesterday was that he is married, and has been for the last 8 years that mean he got married when he was 18 now i dont now where this wife is or if there even still talking to each other or what. What do you think I should do?
1) Confront him talk about it and stay togther
2) Confront him talk about it and break up
3) Confront him beat $hit down his throat and go to jail and then break up with him and then when I get out of jail beat his as$ again and get some of my cousin to help me this time.
What do you think I shold do?
2007-08-30 08:00:00 · 31 answers · asked by sexy me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In the neighborhood I grew up in everyone would go for #3. Only difference is they'd bring the cousins in on the first round.
Ya know, this problem sounds oddly like the plot to 'Sweet Home Alabama' - the movie, not the song.
2007-08-30 08:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you definitely need to talk to him about it. There must be a reason/story behind his marriage and him not being with her. Ask him without fighting or confrontation, just politely ask him. " Are you marriage and if you are what happened?" Just say it plain, sweet and short. Let him to the talking, he's got a lot of explaining to do. So just listen and don't respond until you think you can have a conversation about it. Now if you want to breakup or stay together i guess depends on his reasons behind the marriage. If you feel that his story or situation is valid and understandable and you guys have a good relationship then try to work things out. But it there's something fishy about the story or you guys aren't really doing that great then maybe its time to move on and this could be a great opportunity for that. It really depends on a lot of factors that you have to hear out, think about and try to understand later what is best for you and if he is worth it or not. But don't judge so suddenly life is weird and complicated there might be good reasons to this madness. So be careful lady and see everything from all sides then make a wise responsible decision.
2007-08-30 08:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by 2legit2quit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find out that he is married still?
Confront him about it talk about it and after that decide if you are going to stay together or break up.
If he got married so young it was probably a mistake and they probably meant to get a divorce- they may have actually gone through with the divorce and you may have been misinformed.
2007-08-30 09:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him? Yes. Beat the $hit out of him? No. Talk to him? Yes. But how did you get to know all these. Too late. You are so involved with him so much that your cousins will not even touch his as$. Confrontation may not work but discussion will solve the issues at stake if you speak facts to him.
2007-08-30 08:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by viccheny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, after being together for the last 6 years, and living together, odds are his marriage means absolutely nothing to him and you never know....he might believe he is already divorced. You need to ask him about it before getting overly upset. If he is the right one for you, then you can both work it out. Just sit down and talk with him about it.
And if he just didn't want you to know.... I would suggest employing option number 2. Good luck!
2007-08-30 08:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ask such a ridiculous question? If you've found out the man is married, why wouldn't you tell him you know? This is very serious. He has been lying to you for 6 years, pretending to be a single man. What else has he lied about? Do you even know his real name? You seem to think this is funny, but it's quite serious. A man who would conceal his marriage for 6 years is capable of anything. One thing we do know is that he has no intentions of marrying you.
2007-08-30 08:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a serious question, but I am lol about your 3rd option.
Seriously though, confront him, try to remain calm, and after the conversation you should have a better idea of whether to stay or go or beat the ish out of him.
2007-08-30 08:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Krystal G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have been with this guy for what 6 years and found out that he is married for those 5 years you spent with him. confront him about this marriage and than because he never told you about it was wrong. This guy is a looser you shouldnt waste your time.
best of luck
2007-08-30 08:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all confront him. If you stay with him, he is going to have to work hard to regain your trust. My question is why are you living together before marriage? Trying to play married?
2007-08-30 08:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin got married before she was 18 and they separated and went on with their lives...he lived with another girl had 2-3 more kids and she did the same now 10 yrs later they finally are getting divorced so she can marry her b/f.
maybe he just never got around to paying for the divorce.Did he ever tell you he was married before ?
2007-08-30 08:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋