You're so close to getting what you want but in the end, you get nothing?

Question

Why do some people 'make it' in life while others still wallow in misery? Average but crafty people climb the ladder of success but the genuinely deserving ones die as paupers.

Answer 1

Some people make it which others don't, because of 2 things:
1. Beliefs
2. Choices

What you believe leads to what you choose, and therefore, to what you get out of life. If you believe you're good and you deserve good things, you'll 'attract' it in naturally, through your choices. If you believe you're a nobody, you'll attract a similar fate. Call it the law of attraction, if you will, but the fact is -- thoughts become life.

Like attracts like. Opportunity attracts opportunity. Belief attracts a similar belief. And life follows as the outcome of your chosen belief.

To change life, change your perception of reality. Everything else falls into place.

Answer 2

You're connecting wealth with success. An average (but crafty) person *who is willing to do whatever is necessary to make money* will probably get ahead. A deserving person who has the ability to get ahead but not necessarily the drive to do so, has a lesser chance. Both cases really depend on the opportunities that the person comes across; but the motivated, crafty person might be willing to accept some opportunities that the deserving person would pass up.

Answer 3

First you need to sit down and make a plan of how you will reach your goals. Start off with small goals and go higher as you get better.
Second make your goals realistic.
Third learn from your mistakes.
Forth make and keep a journal of information.
Last always do your best.
If you apply these rules, usually success follows.
If you are not successful, then maybe this goal was not to be.
Everyone, cannot always have what they want.
I wanted to be a movie star, I had to settle for being a musician instead. I went as far into acting, as any of my friends, but I was not the type, that got the best and biggest parts. I made a lot of friends and they come to hear my music. I hope you do not have to, go through the changes, that I had to go through. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Mundane success may depend on the brutality and bluntness of chance. It may not be enough to be fiercy; it may not be enough to be crafty; it is not at all brilliant to barely be good and deserving, except in some life-denying saintly context. Being diligent and industrious may help a lot, but it is never totally sure.

There is some sort of transcendental meaning behind all this that we are not able to grasp nor to fetch. Not yet. Maybe never in our present level of evolution. Maybe only after some smart metamorphosis which in any case will not have depended on our wishes alone, but on our good luck, on the mysterious designs of ... chance, on the ever mysterious ways of ... God.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I think I have a good answer for that. Most people stay in the land of "complain and blame." My life sucks. And its because of YOU or THIS or THAT or HIM or HER but definitely not ME and there's nothing I can do to change it, so I just gonna keep on blaming and blaming.

The key to success is to figure out why something has gone wrong, and then to systematically fix each of the problems. Think of your problem like a puzzle. There might be six reasons why something has gone wrong for you. And you might have to fix each of those six things on your own. And most of all, you have to look at how YOU yourself has contributed to the problem, and fix yourself. Yes, it takes a lot of work but it can be done.

I came from a poor working-class family and ended up with a Ph.D. from an under-ivy university. I also got a divorce from a terrible man. I met another one and married. I have three children, and I help them continually figure out how to solve their own problems.

So that's my answer: some people stay and wallow because they just won't think for themselves, or -- much more importantly -- were never TAUGHT HOW to analyze their situations in ways which lead to alleys for solutions and success.

Answer 6

Successful people who "make it" have learned the secret of delayed gratification.

Others do what they want, when they want, for the immediate short term pay off. This typically results in unforeseen events which create difficulties.

Our culture teaches "being happy" which usually confuses people into acting in ways to be happy in the moment without any mind to the long term consequences of the decision and action.

Answer 7

There are three types of people in this world. Those that have it all. Those that bust their *** and get it all. And those that will never get what they want no matter how hard they try. That's just the way life works but i believe everyone no matter which one you are gains something in life. We gain knowledge and skills as we move though life. Its simply a matter of how you look at things. You can be money, power and property rich. But remain knowledge and skills poor. And vise a versa. In the end its simply a matter of personal perception of ones self worth. Money power and property don't mean squat to a dead man. But pride and sense of self worth can mean the world to a dying man.

Answer 8

you can make it in life and be miserable,unhappy as well as depressed for the rest of your life because you might dislike the job you have or the major you chose in college. you can be a "nobody",still make it through life,yet be happier than the person who makes it in life.i know people who do not have a huge income,are happy and do not argue that much..i also know my friends whose parents and lifestyles are similar to each other and how everything becomes about the money,more arguing happens,more credit cards used,more of everything.just because you made it in life does not guarantee you that you will be happy in the end.the people who have less in their lives appreciate it more..others do not "wallow" in misery..they chose a different path,maybe something that can make them happy which may not be at the same level as everyone else..what matters in life is to make yourself happy and have a job that makes you happy!

Answer 9

They probably succeed because they make a plan of goals they want to achieve, and stick to that plan. They start small, and build on their knowledge [through experience] as the years pass. However, success that is "built" overnight is destined to fail.

Answer 10

Because life is unfair, it is something everyone needs to get used to. Most people who make it in life get help, make a circle of great friends around you and in the end they will help you when it is needed the most.