did anyone feel that you would like to come out straight and yet you feel afraid dat people wud not just affirm because they think you are not?
did you feel you are not gay but people speculate you are and so you feel afraid to be straight, that is, to live a straight life having girlfriends, enjoying masturbation, thinking about women, having a low voice, going to gym, looking more masculine, staying with other men, and just basically being a typical smart guy? Because i feel that i'm not gay but i feel afraid to live the "man life" bacause people are just not used to think that i am. Btw, im 19 and haven't had a girlfriend yet, but i get emotionally involved with women but avoid any sexual involvement because i see my "female relatives", which i am very close with, in them. im also attracted physically with men that i want to become. I get frustrated when i see good-looking ones and seem want to swap our faces. I seem also to be conscious and more sensitive with my actions with dem
2007-08-30 06:25:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dude; just live your life the way you want. Life’s too short to be worrying about BS like that.
As God as my witness I thought gay people enjoyed masturbation like everybody else.
2007-08-30 06:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Injam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fine don't let others opinions get to your head, if you know your straight then you are straight despite what others say! Maybe you can sign up for the gym and when you get there eventually you will meet some friends, as for the part where you see guys don't worry everyone has something they wished they didn't but you can't change it so instead of daydreaming about what you could look like rock what you got! Get a haircut, work out a little, kind of like a miniature make-over if you feel like you don't look well enough. As for the women just approach them, we won't bite, and if you get rejected it's fine everyone has been rejected before no matter how good looking.
2007-08-30 13:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by SSS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in college, we were given the 'assignment' to write a paper from the 'point of view' of another person. I'm female, and the 'point of view' I wrote from was of a 'gay male.' It was SUCH A GOOD PAPER that everyone in the class assumed I was a Lesbian ... but I'm straight, married, and happy.
When my husband and I first started 'going together' several people told me 'not to date him' because he was GAY. I knew 'why' they thought he was gay ... he was raised by three strong women (mother and two much older sisters) and he doesn't 'dish the dirt' with the 'guys' about the women/girls they know. My husband is not GAY ... he's just 'extremely sensitive to women.' I'm treated like a QUEEN, and I love it (and I treat him like a KING because he is my king).
I think that you are very much like my husband ... you can't 'dish the dirt' about women/girls because you can 'see your female relatives' when you do that ... and that is an EXTREMELY GOOD THING.
My husband was very much like you ... he'd had sex only twice (both when he was 18, both 'instigated' by older women) but had 'taken a vow of celibacy' until/unless he met 'the one and only one woman for the rest of his life.' I was very lucky ... I am THAT woman ... but he 'forgot to tell me' that, and I didn't 'know' we were going together until ... and I had been 'jealous' of that woman who would take my best friend away, and I laughed at being 'jealous of myself' so hard I fell out of bed.
BE GOOD, BE CONSCIOUS, and BE WHO YOU ARE ... and if people want to 'think' you are 'gay' that's their LOSS ... your 'one and only one woman' will TOTALLY APPRECIATE YOU when you find her.
2007-08-30 13:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im confused by your question. you say your straight, then you shouldnt need to come out as straight. you need to only come out if your gay. it sounds to me like you are just a more feminine man, when you say your attracted to men you want to be you mean you find them good looking? i find girls good looking and im not gay, im just secure with my sexuality. you should how ever stop comparing them to you female family other wise that is going to ruin any chance you might have at falling in love, unless your interested in insest. i think maybe you should speak to a councelor about you feelings and explore them together. good luck.
2007-08-30 14:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedgirl482 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very confused. My advice is to hang back and have only friendship relationships until you sort out your feelings. Don't worry about what people think you are. Just take the time to be sure yourself.
2007-08-30 13:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your gay. But you could be bi. And that's alright. Basically, maybe you think you are is because they have it stuck in your brain so, so you start to question that and you become confused, but so is everyone else even tho they wont admit it quit yet.
2007-08-30 13:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Ivy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People assume I'm a gay man everyday of my life.
2007-08-30 13:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice story, it lacks clarity though. So your saying your gay, but want people to think your straight? Interesting concept, tell me how well it works.
2007-08-30 13:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by ҡʏʟɛ - ❄ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you know that you are not gay you shouldnt really wprry about what people think you should just live life how u feel more comftable. by you worrying what other people think, you making it seem that you live to satify others need or something. let them think what they want. you just do what you feel comftable with.
2007-08-30 13:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Gurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should join the Republican Party immediately.
2007-08-30 13:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋