I don't know whether to try and work at my relationship and carry on or just leave. There is no effort from my partner but he says that he loves me.
I really haven't a clue what to do, I could give more details but I'd be here all day, just go with your instinct, all answers greatly appreciated.
Thank You!
2007-08-30 05:50:22 · 14 answers · asked by holi_k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know exactly what you mean. My husband is the same, we've been together for a while now and he "loves me" but I just don't see him trying. Personally, I'm ending it, if we aren't moving forward, than what are we doing? I need someone to be my "partner" help me with everything from home, family, and all other areas. I don't need a part time husband. And I don't need to waste time nagging away at someone whos probably got me on mute 90% of the time. So I sat him down and broke it down for him, amazingly he was shocked, I don't know why, but he seemed to think everything was just gravy. After explaining to him how I felt, we came to the conclusion that parting ways was best, we have children so it is a tad difficult, but, it is amicable. I hope this helped a little.
2007-08-30 06:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by chinita25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes BOTH of you to make a happy/healthy relationship. He saids he loves you? IN LOVE or LOVES you? Try writing him a letter and tell him how you exactly feel stay with friends/parents and explain why.
Its no good to pretend they are happy in a relationship when they clearly not its not fair on you and WILL hurt you. It will be a shame that their will be other men that are generally intrested and you'll have your barrier up. Sort it NOW..don't let it drag on....good luck..Jamie
2007-08-30 13:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep it simple: TALK WITH HIM!!! Tell him what you are needing and let him give his input. That way you both can make compromises. I would definitely give it another try, or you may regret it later down the road. But only do this is you love him back, if you have no feelings for him, then you are wasting time - yours and his.
2007-08-30 12:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anxious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your willing to try and work out your relationship and he's not then there's no use in staying with him. If you have no kids with your partner, that's good no strings attached. You should be happy in a relationship and if your not then I feel there's no sense in being together. Good Luck......
2007-08-30 13:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by shai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, and can see that you are unhappy....then why is he putting in no effort????
Generally when people really love someone they want them to be happy, and try to keep them happy.
so here's a question to ask yourself, does he make you happy? can he make you truly happy?
if you think that this man is the right person for you, then it's worth working on. As well as if he thinks you're the one for him.
if you don't think that this is the man for you, then why are you wasting your time? life is too short to be settling, especially when it concerns your happiness!
2007-08-30 13:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lin-z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he loves you, then maybe he is just showing you his love in ways that you do not recognize. Kep trying, and do a little research on the ways that men and women express their love differently (i.e., read some books, talk to friends, etc.).
2007-08-30 13:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by BK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read so many questions today and everyone threatens to just give up and leave their partner/spouse. What about counseling? What about commuicating? Ultimatums even work if you go that far. Don't just give up. Do whatever you need to do to work it out!!!!
2007-08-30 12:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try looking into the future, can you see yourself more happy without him in you life go for it.
If you see yourself being sad without him talk to him and work through it...
People give up so easily now when it can be worked out.
2007-08-30 13:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by missy me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we don't need details - you are not happy and satisfied with your relationship. Stop wasting anymore of your life on him.
Remember - actions speak louder than words. Anyone can say 3 little words but proving it, now that's the real love.
2007-08-30 13:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
go counciling and say thats the only way you will try and make it work if he says nojust leave hun he aint worth the bother x
2007-08-30 13:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by miss heartbreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋