I have a 15 month old boy, and i am wanting another.
My question is towards mothers of more than one child.
What is it like when the second baby arives, what can i expect? Will there be much difference in "my time", and finances, etc. Is now a good time in your opinion?
Thank you!
2007-08-30 05:46:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Finances-not a hige difference. Clothes are already bought if you have the same gender plus you don't need to do any of the big puchased like stroller, crib, etc.
Time-Forget it. With one? I had time. Blesses, wonderful time. Now? I have none. I can't exactly explain it but, there you go.
I think you may want to wait a little-a saving grace for me is that my daughter (now 4) is old enough to help with the baby (now 1), keep herself busy very well, is potty trained, and not needing any of the baby equipment.
best-
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2007-08-30 05:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first 2 children were exactly 12 months apart. After the first year, it was exactly like having twins. Whatever I did for one of them I had to do for the other. If you have another right away, it might be pretty much the same for you. The children will be closer all their lives, etc. I had another child 15 YEARS later and he was as much trouble as the 2. He always had to have a friend over because he was like an only child. He is closer to his friends than he is his older siblings.
So, it depends what you want for your family. Some women like to wait until the older child goes to school before having another. That way the 2nd child gets lots of attention from Mom and there is not so much jealousy from the older child. It just all depends.
Good luck in trying to decide.
2007-08-30 13:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am expecting baby # 2 and my daughter will be 2 when he/she arrives. Of course the child will make financial expense increase...but not by much in my case because I kept everything from my daughter. If the baby is a boy then I will have to go buy all new clothes and I will buy some if it is a girl too but I won't have to pay so much out of pocket. I am trying to get my daughter potty trained or well on her way by the time the new baby gets here so I can still only be paying for one childs diapers. I am also hoping that this baby will catch on to breastfeeding because my daughter never did and formula is just too expensive. I wonder every day how we are going to handle a new baby and how my daughter will take it. Right now she is the baby and she is VERY demanding of me, so demanding that I do not get a moment to myself unless my hubby and I send her to nanas for the night. Everyone I talk to though tells me " no one is really ever financially ready to have a baby, have them young (not too young...but in your 20s and 30s) and just enjoy every minute of them because they are grown and gone before you know it."
2007-08-30 13:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by LosersSuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically I am pregnant with my 2nd right now, but for 2 years now I have been helping my mom take care of my 13 yr old sister (she has cancer) so I feel like I already have 2 kids. It definitely takes up more of your time because you are no longer focusing on 1 child but have 2 to take care of. My babies are older (10 and 13) but they definitely need more attention now more than ever. As for finances, though I don't need to buy diapers and baby formula for them, they still need the necessary things like clothes, shoes, school supplies, after school activities, and whatnot. As for is it a good time right, only you could make that determination if it is the right time to have another child. Personally, I wouldn't know how to take care of 2 young ones at the same time and that is the reason I waited so long to agree with my husband to have another child.
2007-08-30 12:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by kaliwifey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have found that two to three years between children is ideal... for us at least. Any closer and you are taking care of 2 babies that cannot walk or use the potty. Any further apart, there will be more jealousy and animosity directed toward the younger sibling. Now would not be too soon to try to get pregnant.
2007-08-30 13:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I worked in a peds office, and a lot of women commented how going from one child to two children was harder than thought. If you can, it's easier if one will be out of diapers by the time the other one comes along. These are comments that I heard from other mothers in the peds office. Good Luck!
2007-08-30 12:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Roz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 4x the amount of effort needed. and every child after the 2nd is an exponential increase.
finances are not as powerfully impacted if you shop carefully (at least not until the teen age years)
2007-08-30 12:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by Act D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will definantly take up more time and more of your finances. That is totally up to you on weather your ready finacial wise and in your mind.
2007-08-30 12:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Wendie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother put it best, "Having two kids isn't twice as much work; it's the amount of work squared."
Good luck.
2007-08-30 12:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by Rob B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋