Why aren't women in control of everything?

Question

It seems like women are naturally predisposed to leadership and strength under stress. As a man, I can't figure out why they, as a gender, don't have more cooperation and political power. Can someone explain this to me?

This question has NOTHING to do with Hillary Clinton. And I love and respect women of all races and creeds. I just wish we, as men, would quit destroying our own institutions.

Answer 1

Disclaimer: some comments in this may have a tad bit of sarcastic humor in them...but there really is some truth to some of the statements, read carefully BEFORE hitting that "thumbs down"...or thumbs up.

So you ask "Why Aren't Women In Control Of Everything?"

I'll venture a few guesses....based on observation, formal education and living as a woman in 20th/21st century America.

Some women simply don't want the responsibility. They want to have someone "take care of them" and not have to worry their pretty little heads about stuff (just like their daddies told them...and some of their husbands still tell them)... some of those women have what they think are "traditional" religious values...others are just outright golddiggers who only want to live the life of Riley i.e. do lunch and go shopping! Oh, they may grumble from time to time about it, but then they remember how hard some waitress at the restaurant is working and then realize how good they have it...or they see their husband's eye wandering at some cute 20 year old sales associate at their favorite store and think of how harsh life would be for them as a suddenly impoverished ex-spouse THEY had to work at the store! So, they just keep being quiet...keep popping that Prozac and keep telling themselves and the analyst they see each week that they really ARE happy...either that, or I've been reading too many chick lit novels!

There's some women who care more about being "liked" or "fitting in" than they do about being leaders or using the talents God gave them. Why? Maybe it's fear being called a "controlfreak" , "ballbuster" "showoff" "aggressive" "unfeminine" or gawd forbid, a lesbian! After all, they have a "nice girl/ladylike image" to uphold! Some of those women wouldn't dream of having their names mentioned in the papers except for three events: birth, marriage and death. Many of those sorts of women haven't developed much past the jr. high school clique or college sorority mentality...and they'll just continue to follow the crowd until the day they die.

Some insecure types are still believing that long debunked 1986 Harvard/Yale University survey myth about single women over a certain age being more likely to be killed by a terrorist than finding a husband, so because of fears of being an "unmarried cat lady in a studio apartment" they downplay their intelligence and power because they're afraid if they look too smart, too powerful and too competent, no man will ever ask them for a date for fear of the woman being a 'feminazi'... but then who in the hell really wants to date let alone marry someone like Rush Limbaugh? lol

Others had tried, but just got tired of banging their heads against a wall...or should I say "glass ceiling." Or they were toppled by media overemphasis on their gender...or buried under office politics...and they just simply got fed up and dropped out of the game. You might find them meditating at some ashram, spending time in the desert being an artist or musician, teaching in an inner city, rural or Indian reservation school, being a missionary or an activist, being a girl scout leader or running the local PTA, or even answering telephones as a receptionist in a non-profit organization someplace trying to find "meaning" in their lives...but they won't go back into the rough and tumble, cutthroat milleau of the corporate or political area even if you offer then a MILLION dollars to do it...and you can't make them *sticking out tongue* Never mind, those women actually are still exercising leadership values...what they are doing is just not recognized by such by the Forbes 400 or some other male dominated media entity.

Still others are just far too busy to get involved in politics or the upper echelons of corporations. You see, it's a little difficult to plot world domination if the babysitter flakes on ya... *definite sarcasm here* Nope, they're just living normal lives...trying to raising families, holding down jobs, running their own businesses, and trying to make time for themselves and their partners and keeping it together without having a nervous breakdown!

or I could be wrong on all counts...

it could just be common garden variety SEXISM and CENTURIES of deeply rooted socialization that keeps men in control...even in the 21st Century!

who knows? really?

Answer 2

Are you SERIOUS?! The neurons in a woman's brain do not fire in a linear pattern. That means that cause and effect are almost never predictable. Take a look at my wife. If I bring flowers home for no reason there are three EQUALLY likely responses:

1) "For me? How sweet! You're the best husband ever! Let me cook you dinner and then we'll have sex!" 2) "Flowers? For me? What did you do? You might as well tell me now and get it over with." 3) "Flowers. Wow. How romantic. I suppose you think I'll now cook you dinner and jump into the sack with you. Tell you what, why don't you try doing something I really want, like mowing the lawn twice a week? Put 'em in a vase, I suppose if you've already spent the money we might as well get some use out of 'em."

Now, any one of the three is equally likely. But the previous experience has ZERO effect on the next experience! All three will be equally likely again! That's a good summation for damn near everything where women are concerned. They do not seem ruled by logic and reason (and I've met plenty of men the same way, but it is significantly less of the gender). Women are quite often ruled by emotion, to a greater extent than men. This makes many of them unsuited for leadership (not all, but I'd say most). If you can't divorce your emotions from a situation then you can't come up with the best solution. And many women are ruled by very fickle emotions. That's fine when you're dealing with a carload of 10 year olds. It doesn't work so well when dealing with a rogue nuclear state. Hope this explanation helps.

Answer 3

So what you wanted to wear the pretty dress? Other then the part about it being her decision to get an abortion or not I don't know where you came up with all of this other crap! Everyone knew where I went on my honeymoon, we raise our kids together..haven't always agreed but worked things out together, any major decision we make together and I have never ever and never will cry rape! Either you just don't have a backbone or you have very bad taste in women or you are just a woman hating troll. Oh and when the day comes that you can get pregnant then you will have the right to decide to continue the pregnancy or not and not a moment before then!!

Answer 4

Women have been in control of quite a bit since the beginning of time. But the thing is, it's always in the background. We've operated from a position of being the "force behind the man" forever and a day. Have you ever heard the saying :"If Mama's happy everyone's happy, if Mama's unhappy nobody is happy?"

But, I agree with you. As Dylan said "The times they are a changin'" We've got 90 women in Congress, one of them two heartbeats away from the Presidency, and a qualified and brilliant woman running for President. But the "old boys club" doesn't give up power so easily. From frightened and insecure men we hear such stupid things as "women are too emotional," or "what about PMS." It's an uphill battle that women will continue to fight as time goes on. IF Sen. Clinton (and I know you didn't mention her) is elected it will change the fortunes and attitudes of many women, and men, in this country and is long overdue. I don't support her just because she is a woman, that would be irresponsible. But there is a part of me that would be uplifted permanently should she gain the Oval Office, and I suspect I'm not alone in feeling that way.

Answer 5

If you watched some of the animals shows on TV it could help your understanding each gender have specific roles and whenever these roles are short circuited it leads to disaster.
I will give some ex Over the last 50 years with women taken more control and making more family decisions, what has been the result, more abortions, more unwed mothers, ten fold more males in prison more anti social and thugs in the male population and this from the kinder gentler sex.

If you look at nature and man's history women were never meant to lead but to follow and they are always looking for the male to lead no matter what they say if you don't believe me look on any dating sight and 99.9% of the women on the site are always looking for a man that is taller than them.

Answer 6

Whats important to the male ego isn't to the female ego.
We don't compare the size of our equipment, if it weren't for men and trying to look good for them we wouldn't care.
We don't care about power trips, but we do like power.
Men are physically stronger, in the past they have use this to, in a loving way, watch over our children and ourselves in marriage, or in a not so loving way, they have simply by virtue of superior upper body strength declared that being strong is whats necessary to think and lead. Now that we no longer depend on simple physicality to get us through the growing season or a war, women will be able to exercise their abilities as men have historically.

Men do not have the ability to control their emotions, a fact easily seen in any prison in the world. Anger and rage are emotions too, men would be far less harmful if they did shed a tear or two as opposed to beating people up and invading countries. Road rage anyone?

Answer 7

... I'll bet you get alot of sexist remarks.

Women have in the past and by past I mean 6000 BC have always had the primary job of childbirth and care, and lets face it that truely is a full time job. And women are predisposed to the needs of carrying and then feeding a child after birth whereas a man can't. So 6000 bc man was responcalbe for EVERYTHING ELSE.
1 because he knew that the health and saftey of his woman and child came 1st.
2 With the woman tired from birth and care of children he had to hunt for food build shelter, and most tribes even make the clothing.

When humankind 1st started city's the man continued to do everything to care for the famliy and the woman could care directly with the child.

As we evolved man gained power and woman lost it because man lost track of how importian it is to produce and care for offspring, (blame money, land, power and religion)

These have always been the rolls in our existance, you really think 8000 years of tradition can be changed?

Answer 8

Women are no more, or no less predisposed to leadership, than men.

Some of them have great leadership abilities, the same as some men.

The hard thing to do is to find an even balance between the two sexes.

Answer 9

God designed men and women to coexist. Neither are mor prevelant than the other and personal traits of any one individual are not based on their gender. Gender if a physical trait.

The fact is this comment has no basis in fact.

Answer 10

wemen are not any better than men in decision making. they are all about the same. some people think that it would be a kinder gentler government if the ladies took control but history shows otherwise. they are just as capable of making bad choices, although it couldn't get much worse than what we have now.