Why does everyone think suicide is "selfish"?

Question

Do they realize just how much pain and suffering some people go through? Just because their own lifes are so fantastic they become narrow-minded and have the empathy of a kid with autism?

The most important thing: IT'S THEIR OWN LIFE therefore it should be their right, it would be different if they were to blow themselfs up and take several others with them.

Answer 1

well actoly its not that selfish think yes some will mis you but some will also be happy when your gone so you would be making someones dreams come true

Answer 2

I do not see suicide as a solution, but I must say that you've got it 100% right when you mention:
"Just because their own lifes are so fantastic they become narrow-minded"

I've seen this one too many times. People who leads a happy or at least to say, non-turbulent live they often do not understands what a person is going through facing depression.

And i believe that if a person have so many people who loves them, they wouldn't have contemplated suicide in the first place. They just don't get the love they needed, and it makes them feels so alone and left out of this world.

But I still say that suicide is not the way out. Note that I do not say its wrong, but it's not the best option either. This is because suicide is giving up and not trying.

When I was an angry teen who hated the world, I don't give up and kill myself. I go against the world, although I admited that I've been such an a**hole that way. But still glad I didn't take my own life.

Answer 3

You're right.

Nevermind the fact that most of the time they can get help, they just don't want it or don't know how to go get it.

Nevermind that they have just left their families alone and in the dark. If a single father commits suicide - their child is now thrown to the state and they will probably grow up thinking they are wothless b/c their own parents didn't think they were woth living over.

Nevermind that the one person who the closest to them will now and forever feel it was their fault. Living with the thoguhts that you could have saved someone if you had tried a little harder is no picnic. Even though, when someone decides to do it, they do it - there is still that one thought : What was the one thing I could have done ?

So you're right. It's their own life they are screwing up because it doesn't effect their family or friends.

Hello ?!?! Do you realize there are doctors that go to specific colleges to help people with this specific problem ?!?!
Yes, some people go through a lot of pain and suffering, but there is help ! They are just so wrapped around the bad, they can't see any light at the end of the tunnel. They think there is only one way out - but there isn't. THAT is why people think suicide is selfish ... they won't take a few mins. to go see someone who can help. They only think of one way and don't think about the others around them.

Answer 4

Suicide is a horrible trauma that leaves a wound that will be ripped open time and time again on the loved ones of someone who commits suicide. That's why it's selfish.

It doesn't mean they're narrow-minded or lack empathy, but they feel frustrated because they can see the good in the person but the person usually cannot see it themselves. There is help out there. Yes, it may take awhile to work, but it is still out there. For loved ones, this is like watching someone drown who has a life preserver floating within reaching distance.

Your life does not just affect you. If you mother took this attitude, or someone you truly care for took this attitude that it's their life so they can do whatever they want, regardless if it harms you or wrecks their relationship with you, wouldn't you be hurt?

I have been depressed, I have tried to kill myself before. It truly opens your eyes to how much you affect other people, living through something like that.

Answer 5

Well, the selfishness inherent in suicide is usually in the form of grieving family members and friends who felt that the deceased had a lot to live for, or that they could have done something else. However, there are times when people decide that their own lives are valueless. Still, suicide should be a last resort. Anyone considering suicide should consider counseling and life changes first. If someone truly believed that their own life was meaningless and that they shouldn't have to live it, I suppose it is their right (after long and careful reflection) to end it.

Answer 6

This is just one instance where you see judgment should only be left up to one being, and that is God.
Someone who has never been depressed can in no way ever know the torment that a person wanting to commit suicide has gone through or is going through. It is so easy to sit on this side of life and say suicide is selfish. Having been on the verge myself, it is the saddest, loneliest, most helpless, hopeless, forlorn place I have ever been. You literally can see no way out of the torment and hell you think is exclusive to you and your life. Thankfully, for most people, there does come a time where they are able to reach out and ask for help, in some way, shape or form. It really wouldn't hurt for people to be a little kinder these days. You literally may save someone's life.
Having 3 children was the only thing that stopped me.

Answer 7

Because everyone has problems. Those who feel suicide is the way out are just running away from theirs. They are naive to think that they are unique in their issues. What if we all did, where's the logic.

There are reasons why some can deal with Autism and some cannot. If one can, they all can, they simply choose to not "see."

There are few religions that support "suicide" as a way out since all deal with "having a clear conscience" at time of death. If you commit suicide, your mind is so far from clear it isn't funny. You may not believe in any religion but you will die, so, let it be natural. There is always a way out.

Answer 8

I really don't know weather I think suicide is selfish. I mean, on the one hand, you will be leaving family and friends behind who will be scarred by your choice and feel guilty, wondering, "could I have prevented this?". On the other hand, however, they are facing death, over life. The thing that everyone fears over the one thing we treasure above all others-- is that really selfish, or are they they simply taking the seemingly only route out of their personal hell? We all talk about how they took the easy way out, but choosing to end your life can't really be a split second descision, can It?

Answer 9

I understand your point. I agree that if a person is suffering a lot and no one truly loves that person in this world, then it will not be selfish to commit suicide. Also, if the most important person in someone's life had passed away, and life is meaningless without that person, then suicide may be the only way to quickly unite them.

The only time when committing sucide is selfish is when it causes tremendous pain to someone who loves the person dearly still living in this world.

Answer 10

DEFINITELY NOT !! You just do not decide to kill yourself because you are selfish. I lost my brother on this count and from no angle, throughout his life, I found him to be a selfish. In fact, he died because he loved cared for everyone. He died because he had hit the bottle and could not cope with it and turned into a ruin despite everyones counselling. Because he could take it no more to be a burden to his family and friends ! Most of us call it selfish 'cause they want to keep only the positive thought should prevail. Because somewhere deep inside they themselves want to reassure them that some day they have to preserve enough to strength to combat that suicidal that hits us from nowhere even if everything sails smoothly. I don't blame them ! On the contrary killing someone out of cowardice, repeat cowardice and not self defence is a selfish. I therefore reiterate "It is definitely NOT a SELFISH thought !!.

Answer 11

I think why some people say it's selfish is because the person who commits suicide has family and friends whose lives will be dramatically changed after the suicide. It's sort of an easy way out rather than dealing with their issues. The problem is that most people who are considering suicide or have commited suicide have shown signs of wanting help but unfortunately, people tend to ignore the signs.