I was in a relationship for almost 2 years then she cheated on me. But it was 2 weeks of lies and dishonesty.!

Question

I am not sure what to do. SHe told me first it was friends, then he came over, then, she went over, then they cuddled, then they kissed, then she gave him a hanjob, then he touched her, then she gave him head. SHe would not tell me this but he did after I threatened him. She denied it even when I asked her. She says she is so much in love with me but did not want me to know because it would hurt me and she was never goign to let it happen again. I am not sure what to do I absoultely love this girl more than anything. I have no trust. She swore many times over everything we had that she never did anything when I was away. I trusted her but the lies continue, I dont know but maybe they even had sex, I am not enitirely sure . Both tell me they did not but I do not know. It would only make sense that they go this far and not doing sex? He cumed he said. ANd apparently it was only a 5 min *******, what Do I do. Its so hard, im sick every 10 mins, i cant eat , my life is gone. :( : (

she has cried so much in front of me showing me that she cares. She even got a new job away from where this guy was working with her. Its so hard to know, its the lying over our relationship which really really hurts. not so much the cheating part.

She said she did not want to tell me because she wanted things to work out and she would never do it again cause she loves me. She did not want me to know because she said she knew it hurt and she regreated it so much.

1 more thing as well. I leave to go away to university in 3 days. I will be about 6 hours away. So im wondering if before I just went away for a weekend and she ddi this, what will she do when im gone for weeks? Im so hurt, I haven't eaten for days, or done anything.

How can I get trust back when im away so far. I really know deep down she loves me more than anything. But its killing me slowly.

Answer 1

I am sorry bud. I had the same thing happen. I will tell you this, she says she will never do it again. Don't believe her. If she did it once she will do it again.

I was in a relationship for 7 years with someone I truly loved. I was committed to her and even asked her to marry me on at least 3 occasions to which she never gave me an answer. I found out why. She had at least 2 other boyfreinds that I knew about and both were doing her.

You and I deserve better. It may take a while, but you will be better off without her.

Answer 2

Oh, my, I'm so sorry. It may not seem like it right now but you will feel better again. You need to take some time to think things through. Your relationship has suffered a SERIOUS blow and the trust is gone. I'm not sure why this has happened (there are many reasons I can think of) but you need to figure out where to go from here. It sounds like you don't know what to believe right now. When you're feeling up to it you need to find out from her exactly what's going on. You need some form of commitment from her that this won't happen again. She can't see this guy again - she needs to agree to that at least. In the mean time you need to talk to a friend, a family member, someone who'll make you feel better. Remember, it's they who have done something wrong, not you. Hope you're feeling better soon.

Answer 3

I am shocked by the amount of questions from people who have been cheated on and are hurt yet asking what should they do. No one deserves to be treated this way, there are too many lonely people in this world who could do with meeting a nice partner and having a happy life with that person. Move on she is not worth thinking about. Let him have her and she will soon see that the grass is not always greener on the other side!!!!

Answer 4

You are going to a university some miles away from her. Good. There are plenty of girls who are very lonely in the university. Do not let this woman kid you, what she was doing IS sex, if she was doing all you say she was to this 'friend' of yours, she will do it again to him and maybe she is doing it to others. Do you really care if they had intercourse or not? How filthy of her. How filthy of your friend. You are lucky that you have the chance to meet someone else before you commit to this type of person any further than you have. Go on with your life and be happy, you poor guy. I feel really bad for you, you sound so naive.

Answer 5

Well i believe the foundation of a good relationship is trust.If you don't have trust what do you really have....Love isn't everything.
It sounds like it was more than a one time thing.Swetie the best thing for you to do is to take it as a loss any try to move on.........

If you let a bird go and it comes back free and willing then you accept it and never let go, same goes for if it don't come back,accept it and move on......
Just remember what to be will be.......
Good luck sweetie!
Just remember you are as good as you think you are...a person will only do what you let them do........

Answer 6

first of all if this girl you are with would do this to you in the first place she doesnt love you nor does she have any respect for you or your feelings. without trust you will never have a good relationship. you need to move on, it will hurt and take along time to get over but eventually you will get over her and you will find someone who will truely love you. you deserve love not lies.. **** luck

Answer 7

look guy, i know its hard, ....she lied theres no trust you have to move on with your life, its hard but you have to let go because theres always going to be that doubt, and you wont forgive her.....if she loved you in the first place she wouldnt even allowed that "friendship" to go that far....when your in love you only need one person in your life everyone else shouldnt matter...instead of been hurt and putting thought into it just let it go it will take a few years to get it over it but you definitely will....

Answer 8

OF COURSE YOU CAN'T TRUST HER!!!! SHE'S A CHEATER!!!

just dump her and look for the right girl who deserves you
i believe that you are worth it because you're one of the guys who give their heart out and love completely.

YOU DESERVE BETTER

Answer 9

if you are unhappy and cant move forward with the information that you already know........then leave.....adventually down the road sometime he is going to get sick and tired of being accused again and maybe tired of hearing about the past......and dump you so its best if you just leave and move forward.

Answer 10

i feel for you...i dont know what to tell you... all i can say is this sounds horrible...maybe you should try to move on and find someone else...cause if you have no trust...then you really have nothing!!!