Why do people like "one night stands"?

Question

I have never understood it. Why some people prefers that instead of a serious relantionship? Do not you think is an empty experience?

Answer 1

They are supposed to be casual encounters with no strings attached, a mutual agreement of two people using in each other and not being obligated any further than that. I don't condone them, but that is the theory and mentality of that phenomenon.

Answer 2

For me the answer is simple. When I was a child I was sexually abused. That experience has made the idea of sex repulsive and the idea of a relationship smothering. I don't want to put my trust and faith in anyone because I fear that all they'll do is hurt me. And having sex is disguisting to me because of the way I first experience it. However, I have needs just like the next person. So I usually have sex with a guy and leave while he's in the shower or sleep and then never pick up the phone when he calls. After sex I become physically sick and don't want to be around whoever the guy is anymore. I can go a year or two without any sexual contact and no boyfriend but then I crave the physical and emotional and I think this time I'm ready for something more. I realize I'm wrong and end up back in the vicious cycle. Believe it or not a lot of people are in the same boat and will never talk about it. It's something that's happened to them that won't let them get attached. It won't let them explore more than superficial surface relationships- empty or not.

Answer 3

It can be a good thing if you simply as seeking comfort in the arms of another for one night only, and both parties understand what the other wants to gain from it. It's not right if someone has a one night stand whilst giving the person they're doing it with the wrong impression. Everybody must have done it at some point.
It's destructive if someone, especially a woman, goes out having one night stands every week, that shows a serious lack of self esteem.
I've often wondered why women get labelled cheap if they behave like that while its perfectly okay for men to do so. Double standard that will never ever change I guess. Until women take over and the man becomes obselete.

Answer 4

Its not a case of being a slapper or 'loose' or any of those other things - mainly, and this is only my opinion, its a way of having a pleasurable experience with no hassle. Finding someone physically attractive is not a good enough basis for a relationship but if you are both aware of what the other expects and no-one is going to get hurt then why not? If you're thirsty you drink, if you're hungry you eat, why not have sex when you're horny?! As long as you're careful then its good fun. Its not an empty experience if you don't want a relationship, its a quick fix to fancying a shag.

Answer 5

Some people aren't looking for relationships. Sometimes all a person wants is sex. It's not always an empty experience. If you go out looking for sex and get it, you would think that it's a fulfilling experience.

Nothing wrong with a harmless one night stand, I'd say.

Answer 6

It's simply for sex. Men are hot wired to be with different partners. Lots of partners. Women are changing though. More are thinking like the men. However, there are men who do not want one night stands. one nighters can be and are demeaning and empty and don't help one's self-image much. But the guys go to sleep and forget it. But girls will keep being taken in, cause they think they are differnet and can convince the man
to change his dirty ,rotton ways, so he says, of course! He gets what he wants, the girl goes home all disillusioned until next time. The pool of available men is limited. And most girls don't want a settled down guy right away. They want to be lied to by the roague looker.
Elvis Presley, Marlon Brando, name a more recent one, you get the picture.
See that guy in the black suit and shoes, white socks and bicycle over there? He is a missionary and he is hot wired to marry his first girl. Do you find him attractive? I didn't think so.
Now, you are armed and dangerous and on equal footing. Good luck!

Answer 7

You get all the pleasantries of the female body without all the nagging and the hormonal bullshit that go with women. Having a relationship is good if you can find a sane and pleasant woman but i personally cant, do any such women exist any more??

plus women have the tendancy to spring the im pregnant thing on us, then your stuck with a kid and some leach of a women who takes money out our wallets at every oppotunity!

Answer 8

One nighters are definitely not for everyone. Some people can't stand the fact of being with more than one partner in a lifetime. You sound like you might be one of those people. Personally, I'm in a long term relationship with one person, and I have no desire to be with anyone else. But, it hasn't always been this way. I have had a few one night flings, and they were a great way to relieve some stress without any attachments or remorse. As long as both partners know what's going on BEFORE they end up in bed, no harm, no foul.

Answer 9

I have never had a one night stand, the most i did was kiss a guy ont he first date and event hat felt wrong, I don't understand why anyone would cheapen themselves like that! i think the reason they like it though is because nobody wants to be in a relationship with someone who sleeps around with peopel they barely know! A cactch 22!

Answer 10

I honestly do not like one night stands. Actually I like to know a girl first, let her know me, and I think the most attractive part of dating is flirting and conquering someone. Sex will come if it may, but it is not the core of a relationship. I had many girlfirends when I was a teen, and i suffered from break ups, but I think it was worth it.
Finally I went out with my wife for 5 years and got married, we made love a couple of weeks before we got married, and since then it has been great. 12 years later I am still in love and married.

Answer 11

Some people just need to feel wanted and make the mistake of thinking that a one night stand proves they are wanted by 'someone'. Usually common sense is surpressed by alcohol.