was your first few weeks of marriage (or even a month) 'the honeymoon bliss' that everyone talks about.. or was it hard and stressful?
I recently got married and it's been a constant agruement and struggle....
2007-08-30 03:48:34 · 13 answers · asked by stephanie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's been thirteen years, but I still remember how hard the first weeks of marriage was. I walked around feeling like I had been knocked in the head thinking "What have I done?" I was older and had been independent for awhile. I even stressed over the joint checking account my husband wanted. I had never shared my finances and didn't like the idea at ALL. We communicated (and argued) and worked things out. I now have a secure loving relationship and my husband is my best friend. What you are going through is normal and it will get better.
2007-08-30 04:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Rosemary's Baby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, and we didn't have that honeymoon bliss either. It'll be 5 years next month. I'm unhappy. He doesn't really like me. We were awesome friends before marriage and had a great relationship. We don't talk now and things just get worse and worse. I know his answers for all our problems and generally everything is my fault.
I expected marriage to be a continuation of our relationship. Making it official. I don't think it was the act of getting married that ruined it, but I certainly don't think we're a good match anymore.
2007-08-30 11:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The beginning was tough. I don't think either of us realized how hard it would be. Everyone says it's just a piece of paper, but it really isn't. I used to read all kinds of books about everything I wanted to do - gardening, cooking, repairs, babies...but not once did I ever read a book on marriage because it never occurred to me that it was something that required daily action and commitment. The word love is a verb - you have to actively love your spouse every day. Find out what makes him tick, what he likes, do those little things that will surprise him and make him happy. Read the book The Five Love Languages. I found it really helpful in understanding how to better communicate with my husband. We are now super strong in our marriage.
2007-08-30 11:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jbuns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married nearly 4 months and it's blissful... although there's been plenty of rows and plenty of stress. But we're a team now and work in harmony.
However the lead up to the wedding was a different matter - we fought like cat and dog. Constantly. All our insecurities came out.
Maybe you two are just doing the same thing, but after the ceremony?
2007-08-30 10:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by dakinijones 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be quite honest, I got married so young I didn't have any set expectations..I just knew I loved him for years and this was a way to seal it.
Two children and 7 years later it's still hard, much harder and in my case not that blissful and lonely.
I'm trying to make things better and at the same time wondering if it's worth it.
2007-08-30 10:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a mix. We kinda had our first fight our first week of marriage. But hey, that's what happens when families are involved. But he was there for me. That made all the difference for me. It was stressful anyway...I mean, I realize why Indians only do this once, but my guy was very sweet and understanding, so he made our only week together as smooth as it could be. Sometimes families add to the stress of things, but it's hard to know that they only mean the very best for the newly weds.
2007-08-30 10:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to struggle in marriage.pls release urself and know that u have started a new life different from what u were used to.pls see ur spouse as ur friend not a stranger. all the best. the world will be a better place to live if we can live together in love,peace and harmony
2007-08-30 11:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by tgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first year of marriage is hard and stressful, but you took a vow and it is your duty to do everything you can to make it work. It gets much easier, but it will always be hard work.
2007-08-30 10:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was soooooooo much harder than I expected but we worked hard and got through it all. It has been 37 years now and I love this man more each day we are together. Hang in there, good luck...
2007-08-30 10:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was willing to take the good with the bad and never expected much! My marriage lasted 52 yrs. until my husband died in 2002. You have to communicate and work out your problems and don't expect to much of one another!
2007-08-30 10:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋