Ok it's like this i love this guy and he loves me. we had our ups and downs time and time again the problem kicks in because we haven't seen each other for 3 months now because i moved to Fl. and he stays in Va. the next time i know for sure that i will see him is in Jan. 2008 before he leaves to boot camp. we were friends before we got together we talk about getting married but i'm not sure if we are ready to take that step how do i know when i'm ready. how did you know when you was ready. when we talk about it we sound ready. can someone help me out on this one.when is it time my heart says yes but my mind says no.
2007-08-30 02:59:36 · 16 answers · asked by it's me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm going into the military as well and we did stay together for a minute but i choice to come back so we can do as we planned. I didn't want to live with someone else we wanted our own place but it didn't happen that way we had a roommate. So now we are about getting what we want in life cause most people see us as babies because we are 20 and just starting out.
2007-08-30 04:01:48 · update #1
Hi and good morning....If your mind says 'no' you might want to listen. Love is a wonderful emotion but sometimes will get in the way of being 'realistic'. Ask yourself if he's your 'true love', also ask yourself if you are ready for a full time commitment. If your bf is going into the 'military' you will have to understand that it takes a 'special' kind of woman to be married to a military man. I know from experience. A military man will need lots of support from his wife, also a lot of patience since he will be on maneuvers quite a bit through his military life. You will have to learn to be independent if he's gone to war or off to another tour to where you will be by yourself quite a bit depending on his 'MOS'. You will have to take care of the home front so do speak. It will get lonely at times, extremely lonely so take this into consideration. he will need your total support and understanding. If you think you are capable of handling all of this, then I would say you might be possibly ready for a long term commitment, if you have any doubts at all, then I would wait. Hope this has helped. Good luck on your decision and have a blessed day!
2007-08-30 03:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any part of you say no than you are not ready.First of all you have to prepare yourself for married life.Your boy friend is going to boot camp which means that he will be traveling around in the military for the next several years and you have to figure out how that will affect you and your marriage.You really don't have the fundamentals in place to start out.You need a good income ,an idea of where you want to live and the discipline and maturity to be alone when and if your husband has to go overseas.This sounds like marriage to this man at this time is not a good idea.Don't worry when your ready you will know.
2007-08-30 03:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and think for a day or two. Living in distance, relationships do not work out. The couple MUST STAY together after marriage. If this is not possible,do not think about marraige.
If both are ready to get married and live together , get married.
2007-08-30 03:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by Amina L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married to a person is a lifetime commitment, but it's the best one you'll ever make. You'll have someone by your side for the rest of your life. I knew I was ready when I was able to be my complete and udder self when I was around my faience. I would follow my heart not my stupid ole' mind. lol
I hope you hear wedding bells soon. Good Luck!
2007-08-30 03:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by nana_14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to your heart don't plan anything because it won't work out. And when you are with him if it happens naturally then you were ready. If not don't feel ashamed, and don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable with doing. But when it does you'll be nervous, but like they say when the time is right it'll happen. Good Luck <3
2007-08-30 03:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by bris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have lots of time to think things through, what's the rush? If you are not ready you should know by Jan. 2008.
2007-08-30 03:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I just knew, but it turns out I made a mistake getting married.
Unfortunately marriage is the one thing where making a mistake equates to a lifetime of regret and living with that mistake every day.
2007-08-30 03:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went with my heart,when you feel as though you can't be apart and have to spend every minute together .when you can't wait for his call, or e-mail.when you can't stop thinking about him and you know for sure you will always be together, then that's when I would say the word marriage.
as long as you guys hold a great amount of respect for each other....=-)..good luck
2007-08-30 03:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Saw Dust♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you (or him) willing to move?
being ready for commitment is the easy part...its everything that comes after that that you have to ask yourself...
i have recently remarried after being divorced for 7 years and thought that i would never do it again..i asked myself the same question over and over again but in the end i realized that the man i married is some one that i can imagine myself with for the rest of my life!
good luck
2007-08-30 03:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the divorce rate being somewhere around 60%, that means 60% of the answers from these married people will be totally wrong.
So follow your heart!
2007-08-30 03:10:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋