do you think that parents are to blame?

Question

for the anti social behaviour of some youths today

i am a mother of four and i believe that bringing my children up to be polite and respectful of people and their property will make them better youths and ultimately better adults

Answer 1

YES. I believe that children are our reflection. If we don't teach them to greet people properly or to sit quietly while at a restaurant or to know when it is proper to run around then how would they know. I dislike to go to a restaurant and have toddlers run around or screaming while the mother "asks" him/her to be quiet or chases after him/her. I have seen many parents at the supermarket running down the aisles chasing after their kids or opening packages simply to shut them up. One cannot wait until a child is 3 or 4 to teach them discipline or how to behave. Children are extremely smart and know how to manipulate situations to their advantage. Also, there is nothing more irritable than speaking to a child who doesn't respond or won't even look at you when speaking back.

YES PARENTS ARE TO BLAME.

Answer 2

Yes, I think parents should take some of the blame, if their children are badly behaved and anti-social. My daughters are grown up now but my eldest was a wayward teenager and she caused me many sleepless nights. I tried to show her by example, the right way to live her life but for a while it didn't work. She flunked her exams (GCSEs) and I had to pay for some of them because she played truant and didn't take them!! Her teacher told me that i was torturing myself because I always went to her parents evening. He said three words "peer group pressure"

I always believed that if I loved her enough, she would come through and she did. She was a teenage mum, supported by me, despite my dismay. She eventually married a lovely guy and I have another granddaughter from this union. My daughter is now a lovely young woman, good mother and wife and has a responsible job in a local hospital. Bringing up children is a challenge and I often wonder what would have happened if I had had a son?

Answer 3

Sorry. At this point in history, we have to look to the grandparents.
Not all of them. I'm a grandparent and I didn't go the way of pot smoking, free love, make love not war,anti the system while on welfare, rioting in the streets and smashing in shop windows as a demonstration against the so called 'system'.

This was the beginning of rebellion against all things of authority.

How can that raise children who can raise children? These are the grandchildren, your children must live with today.

So considering the seed of the seed, peer pressure and example is worse today than ever before in history. So teach your children to think with their own minds.

Answer 4

Parents can be blamed only up to a point. There are other factors like schooling,social environment,level of education,prevalent conditions in the society and more,which effect in behavior formation of children. Out of all these,parental influence is most important.

Answer 5

Well who else could it be? My daughter was taught to respect others, although self-respect is the initial thing lacking as respect for others stems from there.

Many teenagers are having kids way too young, before they've even grown up themselves and therefore do not understand the importance of rules and restrictions.

Some parents just can't be bothered, think 'parenting' ends at giving birth and feeding!!

I could go on, but I think people get the gist....

Answer 6

I think that it goes both way.
Sometimes the child just develops the desire to be alone. My psychology teacher was a hermit and we discussed this in class.
I think the teacher that posted an answer some number before me, hit the nail on the head with some cases. Sometimes the parents aren't active in keeping relations with others and it is taught that way too.

Answer 7

Yes, ultimately the responsibility falls on the parents; but this problem has been brewing for a long time. The main issue is that parents today were neglected kids themselves at one time and now they are parents themselves, who have little or no clue on how to instill on their kids what is right and what is wrong.

Answer 8

Yes, yes, yes. Their children are their responsibility, they and they alone need to teach the kids respect, manners, hard work and morals, however when parents do not have them what chance to the kids have! However I’ve never met a parent yet who will hold their hand up and say they have made mistakes with their children.

Answer 9

Today's young parents often come unprepared for parenthood themselves, so yes, they do not know how to raise a child. Also, society as a whole has changed in that we judge rather than help. We have become selfish instead of looking out for one another. The children learn this and then in turn act out what they have learned from the adults.

Answer 10

even a two year old can make the decision to be difficult abt potty training nomatter how patient (or impatient) the parent is. What more a teenager with raging hormones never mind the influence of the media.
We are all responsible for our own behaviour. Blaming others doesn't solve anything. Making a personal decision to do something: now that's a solution.