My Fiance and I got into a fight last night because I want to go to mexico for a week on my stagette. I told him that if he was going away for a week, than so was I. It just so happens that I want to go to mexico too, but at a different time. He thinks that I don`t want him to go to mexico or go anywhere and that I`m restricting him, but all I want is to be treated equal. I don`t want double standards. If he is going away to Mexico with the guys, isn`t it fair if I go with the girls? Or am I wrong?
2007-08-30 02:56:35 · 11 answers · asked by ALittleLight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mmmmm, I was hoping I was missing something in what he was saying. I knew I was right, but I didnt want to be.
2007-08-30 03:34:01 · update #1
Won't let you???? Yeah I would go out of spite just to show him that he isn't in control of my life. If he can't deal with it then maybe you two shouldn't be getting married.
2007-08-30 03:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Shavon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not wrong, necessarily. However - is he saying "no" because he thinks you're too likely to run into each other, and that wouldn't be fair (considering it's a stag party)? Or is he saying no because he just doesn't trust you? If it's the first, PLAN to be in different areas. Also: Do you want to go to Mexico because that's really where you WANT TO go? Or do you want to go because you might "accidentally" run into him, because you don't trust HIM? If that's the case, you should reexamine your relationship. If you really really want to go, though, just try to plan to be in different places. Good luck.
2007-08-30 03:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know....you guys are supposed to be getting married and celebrating the beauty of becoming a couple and you plan an entire week long vacation separately to 'celebrate' getting married? That just sounds ODD to me. Perhaps you should rethink the whole marriage thing, perhaps you aren't a good match.
2007-08-30 06:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong.
What do you want to go to Mexico for? Do you want to have a final 'fling' before you're married?
Do you suspect that your fiance will be playing up while he's away & you want to do the same?
If my fiance was acting this way I would go somewhere, alright - & not come back!
2007-08-30 03:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong at all, it is a definite double standard. If he does not want you to go, then I would be willing to bet that he has plans of doing things he probably should not and thinks you will be "Girls gone wild" when you go too. Do not accept the one way treatment. It is a pretty bad sign if he is like that now, he will be like that later and it will get worse if you do not stand your ground now.
2007-08-30 03:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you seeing the RED FLAG??? This is a look into your marriage. Take care of this or call things off, it only gets worse from here.
2007-08-30 03:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes its only fair.If your having these issues now imagine what it will be like once married.Sounds like hes trying to control you.I wouldnt marry if it stays like that.
2007-08-30 03:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Gemini 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not even married yet and your both already playing games.
Why do you even need those STUPID parties anyway?? I mean really? Its obviously causing nothing but DISTRUST and fights.............STUPID!
2007-08-30 03:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is fair for you to go too. If he doesn't "let" you go, then he is a total hypocrite.
2007-08-30 03:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by jannabanana 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the saying goes, what's good for the goose is good for the gander. There ya go!
2007-08-30 03:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋