I am the mother of 7 kids ,3 boys/4 girls who all live with me.I'm on my third marriage hopefully the last and i have been happily married for 10 yrs now.My current husband is the biological father of my 3 boys and my youngest daughter.My eldest daughters father and i were only married legally for 2 yrs .He left me when our daughter was a baby because he never wanted children .I moved on so did he and he only ever sent a check for his daughter.About 3-4 years ago he contacted me to wanting to see his daughter because he had a new wife and 2 young sons so he felt guilty.His wife feels that its her right to get involved with things pertaining to my daughter, me, and my ex.husband?And to make comments about my past relationships and question my parenting skills?Stop CS till she new where the money was going?Even argued with me at one point brought up my 2 nd husband who is dead and called my 3rd daughter by him a racial slur because her dad was Arabian/Indian descent.
2007-08-30 02:29:35 · 7 answers · asked by Brianna P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My daughter is 15 yrs old now a for the most part a good kid school ect. but she does try to rebel.Whenever she does the smallest thing wrong even if its a bad grade my ex. and his wife blow it way out of proportion.My daughter is not fond of visting london where they live because she hates the rain/food and most of all her step mom.She indifferent to her dad unless it benefits her so she avoids his calls sometimes(unless i force her) and i get blaimed for it by my ex. and new wife in particular?P.S we have no court ordered visitation.Also CS payments go into a college fund for my daughter.
2007-08-30 02:34:25 · update #1
Your daughter and her dad does have the rights to see each other. But I don't agree that he and his wife should intefere so much on her life. He hasn't been there for the most part of her childhood, so all of a sudden, now he wants to come back and rule over her. You should make it clear to his wife too to stay out of this as it concerns YOUR family and she has no part in it even though she married your ex. I would've ex comm with him the time he looked down on my 3rd daughter. I won't tolerate anyone saying bad things about my kids.
2007-08-30 03:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just refuse to deal with her. If she calls tell her you will only talk to the father of your child and hang up. Don't engage with her in any way what so ever. Nothing to do with your daughter is her business, NOTHING!!! Soon your daughter will be old enough to do as she pleases. If there is no court order that says she has to visit her dad I wouldn't make her go if she doesn't want to. Let him and his wife go through the expense of getting a Judge involved.
2007-08-30 02:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is way over the top. Maybe she is wanting to make you miserable so that you will say "get out of our lives and take your money with you". People do crazy things because of money. The best you can do is limit your contact with her and the ex-husband.
2007-08-30 02:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Gee-Gee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!!!
first of all i think that it is nice of her to want to acknowledge what her dead beat husband hasn't in years...but at the same time--"who does she think she is"? she needs to give you the space and realize that you have been doing it for how many ever years before she was even there...and how does your daughter feel about this? does she even realize that he feelings need to be taken into consideration? and who is she to question your parenting skills? no one is perfect and i promise you that you will continue to make mistakes
i have 4 children of my own w/2 divorces...my ex husbands wife tried to do the same thing and in turn...my girls do not like her for the things that she has said about their mother.
good luck
2007-08-30 02:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's a control freak and wants control over something she has nothing to do with.
2007-08-30 02:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she wants to be involved but maybe just a little to much
2007-08-30 02:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her, and tell her you will sue for slander if she doesn't back off.
Sounds like she's jealous of you....perhaps her marriage isn't very happy.
2007-08-30 02:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋