I'm supposed to be going on holiday with a family member next week and we now don't get on. Its only been in the last couple of weeks we've been falling out but its been a major argument and we don't talk to each other now. My boyfriend says to go on the holiday with her and just do my own thing but I don't know if I could do this. Also we have to share a room and shes never been the easiest person to live with so I'm worried it could escalate the argument. I don't want to lose the money I have paid for the holiday either.
2007-08-30 02:25:21 · 6 answers · asked by Different 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand how you feel. My daughter was close to her cousin and they had a huge argument a month before my niece's wedding. My daughter was supposed to be her bridesmaid but was told she wasn't welcome at the wedding and because I supported her, I wasn't welcome either. We are a close family and yet 2yrs later, things are just being resolved now, but that day has been lost forever.
If there is no chance of a reconciliation before the holiday, I wouldn't recommend going as:
a) It is horrendous travelling abroad with someone who, at the moment, hates you.
b) She could make it the most miserable holiday of your life by her antics. As you say, normally she is not the easiest person to get on with. Just now, multiply that by ten and ask yourself if you could cope.
c) A female on her own abroad, is not safe. It can be pretty lonely too, doing your own thing especially in a foreign country where the language is different too.
d)Unfortunately, if this disagreement escalates abroad, you are really on your own. My daughter was asked to go on holiday with some girls from college. She did all the booking etc on line for them all but when they got to Spain, it became clear that they were only using her and she was left on her own. Things escalated and they threw her clothes in a bag and wouldn't let her in the room that they were sharing. They threw shoes out the windows ruined her makeup, it was awful. The hotel staff couldn't have been nicer and rescued most of her stuff and got a room for her to sleep in that night. She could have stayed, but couldn't afford the room for the rest of the week. The rep tried everything to sort them out but they weren't interested. She ended up flying home after two days.
I know losing the money is a big issue, but is it worth going with someone who wont speak to you and who could be vindictive or spiteful, especially when you are sharing a room?
I really hope there can be a reconciliation for you both before you go and that you will enjoy your holiday to the max.
2007-08-30 03:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by flutterby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Different,
As you have paid for the holiday, or at least your part of it, if it was me I would not want to lose either the holiday or the money and so would probably go.
Before doing so though, I would try to reach an amicable agreement with your relation and let her know that falling out and arguing will simply spoil the holiday for both of you.
Both doing this and the holiday itself could resolve the problems you both have with each other.
Whatever the reasons for your falling out, neither of you should take it on holiday with you. If you can't resolve the problem before you go, it is probably better to go and simply do your own things and stay apart from each other as much as possible.
If this cannot be done, although I hate saying it, it may be better for one of you to stay at home and lose the money. Better that than going and having a thoroughly miserable time.
Good luck and I Hope you can both go on holiday and have a really good time, either together or apart.
Poseidon.
2007-08-30 09:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by Poseidon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would try to talk to her to see what she is doing about the holiday cos she may have decided she doesn't want to go with all the conflict between you and if this is the case suggest one of you buy the others place from them and go on seperate holidays. if this doesn't work contact you hotel to see if you can get seperate rooms instead of a joint room then take your boyfriend with you.
2007-08-30 12:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by aarkiejo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. Vacations are stressful during the best of times, and this will only strain your relationship further. Plus, it would be a nightmare for you. Why pay for a miserable time??
2007-08-30 09:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
see if your boyfriend can go too. it might be a little extra money and another room but at least youll have fun. or if he cant do you have another friend who could?
2007-08-30 09:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stalemate dude.You can't eat your cake and have it!
2007-08-30 09:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by quest? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋