I just turned 30 and honestly I have never really had much of a sex drive. The only time I feel the "urge" is when I am ovulating. Any other time, I never feel in the mood unless I force myself to do it then I start to enjoy it. Is there anything out there that helps women with this? Men feel urges probably several times a day from what I hear - I want to be that way too. My husband would probably be a lot happier. HELP!!!!
2007-08-30 01:59:42 · 11 answers · asked by Stacy C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And no I don't feel emotionally connected to him at all. But, I don't think he does either but that doesn't seem to change his sex drive. Men could have sex in the midst of an argument!
2007-08-30 02:24:07 · update #1
Are you on a birth control pill? If you are- this can kill your sex drive. That was my problem. Like you said, I never had the urge, I would do it and then enjoy it though. I talked with my OBGYN about it and she told me that all the hormones in the birth control were making me that way. I got off the pill and I am always ready to go now! If you need some form of birth control try the IUD (intrauterine device) your doctor can put it in- it's not surgical or anything and it is just as effective as the pill but without the hormones!
2007-08-30 02:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a noble motive..to make the husband happier.
You have not mentioned your age, children husbands age etc..that would have helped.
Few suggestions that have always worked.
Start on a vigourous exersize programme..that will rev up your body and releases endorphines in your blood and gets the hormones rushing.
Meditate daily..this will release stress and any mental blocks you have.
Talk a lot about sex.... what you like what will drive you wild... let your imagination run wild.
Dress up in sexy dresses , this will make you aware of your sexuality.
And above all tell your husband to learn more about sex so that he knows better tecqniques becomes flexible , is more open to new ideas new methods... and makes sex so great each time that you look forward to it at the end of the day.
One more thing..did you have any negative experience as a child about sex...molested..abuse..if so then resolve that issue internally....
All the best for a passionate life.
2007-08-30 02:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's some topical and oral medications that can help. but honestly no woman has the sex drive of a male and never will we're just not made that way. anytime you hear of a nymphomanic then she is not that interested in sex but more interested in using it to control men. i found an absence of stress or little stress anyway and romance help a lot. women can't get 'in the mood' when they are stressed about work, bills, kids, laundry, dinner, etc. and they sure don't go for the 'i gotta urge let's take care of it' thing, they need to feel loved and cared for and not pulled in different directions. a little 3 day weekend without the kids or the pressure of 'we got to have sex because we got the time' would do wonders for your sex life.
2007-08-30 02:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by ?! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello--there are many different things that can be done to increase your sex drive. Starting with the foods that you consume. I found an interesting website that lists some foods that are supposed to boost a woman's sex drive. Natural food aphrodisiacs have been around for hundreds of years and just might be the little extra something that is needed to spice up activity in the bedroom.
Also, another suggestion is taking natural aphrodisiacs pills. Natural aprodisiacs will definately boost your sex drive.
2007-08-31 06:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by sabri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if this is the case or not, but do you have a good self image of yoursef, and do you feel sexy?
I know that some women and even men, have had low sex drive because of self esteem issues. They feel like, if I don't even think that I'm sexy, why would my spouse?
I know from experiance, my wife is going through low sex drive right now, and has almost no desire for sex, and yes it is frustrating for me, but the best thing I can do as a husband is encourage her, and tell her that I think she's beautiful and sexy, and not push her. I don't expect her to have sex with me, or make her. Because if I do that, I'm not showing her that I care about her or her feelings.
2007-08-30 02:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said that regardless if you need it or not , twice a week. To get into the mood, have your husband gently caress or "pet" you , with not the intention of sex. A massage with candles lit , an emotional connection is very important.. if you are not emotionally connected to him, that in itself is a turnoff. Remember what got you together? You need to do that again, with much vigor, keep the flame alive. Add in your details , the answer to this question:
Do you still feel emotionally connected to him, or not?
2007-08-30 02:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you did have an emotional connection it would be different. I say this because with my ex I never wanted anything to do with sex but there was no emotional connection he didn't meet my needs emotionally so I wanted nothing to do with meeting his sexually.The man I'm with now he totally meets my needs emotionally and wow I can't get enough of him it's crazy! I went from one extreme to the next.
2007-08-30 02:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by SexyMamaTo3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask a doctor for testosterone. Supposed to work wonders in women
2016-05-17 06:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your doctor or gynecologist about this. He/she can possibly make some recommendations. There are some medications that can help boost a woman's libido, I'm told.
2007-08-30 02:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing that iv found my girlfriends been like this for 10 years cant help you sorry i wish i could
2007-08-30 02:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋