about a month ago my dad raped my 14 year old sister.... last week she went to the doctors with bad stomach pains and she told the doctor what happend.... the doctor told the police and got my dad arrested and now hes in jail for 10 years........ my sisters a reck but she wants to keep the baby...... i just dont know what to do or what to think i never thought my dad had that in him......... HELP PLEASE!!!
2007-08-30 01:40:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Wow, just last week your sister told a doctor who told the police and your dad is already in jail for 10 years?? Has to be the fastest conviction and sentencing on record!!
Try again, troll.
2007-08-30 01:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
I certainly hope this isn't true.
She needs councilling not just for the rape trama, but for the family planning aspect of this. I understand that some victims of rape and incest do not believe in or feel guilty about aborting a pregnancy, but it is an option to keep open since she is the victim of both. A young girl forced into this situation by her father isn't something that any child should go through. A councilor would be able to explain all options to her and help her make the best decision. If she feels she cannot terminate the pregnancy, adoption should be the only other alternative, whether someone else in the family takes the baby or a stranger. I don't believe there is any way she can take care of this child being she is mentally and emotionally unprepared for motherhood, and being she is so young and not mature enough to deal with the emotional pain that would come with the raising of, so to speak, her own sister-daughter. Many older, much more mature women cannot handle caring for the child born of rape by someone they never knew, and in the end they are abused, or treated unfairly. No one would expect a young girl to take on this kind of responsablity. It wouldn't be healthy for her to try to care for this baby, and would prove to be an emotional strain and reminder of what she went through. If should she feel like she is abandoning the baby or is weary of an unknown placement, there are programs out there that would allow her to get to know and help choose the adoptive parents and they would follow her pregancy, even help with expences. She could even find someone within your family circle so she could remain close if she wanted with the child being more of a cousin or niece, instead dealing with caring for her own sister-daughter. I hope and pray everything works out for her and she makes the right decision that is not only best for her, but best for the baby as well.
Love,
Angela
2007-08-30 09:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by caw0911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister that there is a good chance that her baby could be born with genetic problems & she should terminate the pregnancy. Where does your mother stand in all of this? She can take your sister to the clinic & have the pregnancy terminated whether your sister wants to or not because she is underage. I'm surprised the doctors haven't been suggesting this anyway.
This is not your deal (unless your mother is not around). If she isn't then talk to the doctor & see if he can do something about it (like a decision that your sister isn't mentally or physically competent to have this baby). She really is far too young to be making any such decision.
2007-08-30 08:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your sisters decision though I would explain to her how unhappy the baby would be, it wouldn't have a dad and would be bullied the hole way through school. She is also very young to be having a child and if she does decide to have the baby help her through and explain everything and what she will lose, what the baby will need and the concept of giving birth. I would also suggest you and your sister get help proffesionally to help you both through this mentally. As for your dad if you still want to see him visit him in prison and write a letter explaining how much hurt he has caused and what he has done to your sister, in my opinion he should have nothing more to do with your family and your sister would probably feel betrayed if you saw him. Hope this helps and good luck in the future.
2007-08-30 08:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by abc123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister did the right thing by telling her doctor what happened. No man should use a girl like that, especially her father!
If she desires to carry the baby full-term and keep it, she needs to keep in mind that children born of relational (i.e., your dad) contact may have disabilities, physical and/or emotional, and she will have a full time taking care of the child with the problem. She may want to consider termination or adoption; there are families out there who adopt "special needs" children. The choice, ultimately, is your sister's.
I can understand she is a wreck, bless her heart. The two of you need to seek counseling so that she will realize she did nothing wrong, the fault lays with your dad. Carrying and keeping the baby, too, will remind her every day what happened to her and she needs to heal emotionally.
Good luck.
2007-08-30 08:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by ripsgracie 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister kindly that maybe she should go to a therapist. She shouldn't have to deal with something like that without any psychiatric help. (I'm not saying she has anything wrong with her, but she's DEALT with something wrong). Give her lots of love and support. Tell her to keep going. Some women have commited suicide after rape. Get her to a psychiatrist. If she's too stressed, she could lose the baby. Tell her that life is so precious, she has to go on, and focus on all the things in life that are good. Where's your mother, by the way?
2007-08-30 09:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this happened to your sister. Your whole family is affected, too. She needs your love and support. 14 is awfully young to be a mom. She needs someone to help her look at all her options, besides keeping the baby. You need to talk to a counselor. I know you are confused about your good feelings and your bad feelings towards your dad. Men who have sex with children are sick and they rarely change. That is not your fault or your sister's fault. It is not your dad's fault that he is this way, but he needs to be supervised to keep other young girls safe.
Your family is not the first to have such a traumatic thing happen, but that doesn't make it any easier. I know I am not the only one to send you love and hope for a better day.
2007-08-30 08:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by quietspoken01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your sister! This is terrible. How old are you? Where is your mom and other family memebers? You and especially your sister needs to get professional help! LIKE YESTERDAY! Is this your biological dad? In my opinion, your sister should not be allowed to keep that baby. First off, she's to young to have a baby, she has her whole entire life to have children, this baby she's carrying was conceived out of a horrible rape, by the man she trusted...HER DAD. Having this baby will not help her get through this trauma. There is a chance that every time she looks at that baby's little face, she will be reminded of how it was conceived....RAPE! This baby will be her child and her sibling...think of how the child will handle this has it grows up. At this very moment, you, your sister and family need to start the healing process and the only way is through counseling and prayer. I now you are having so many thoughts and emotions right now, because it was your dad, but he is being punished for the terrible act.
This is so sad, because we as girls grown up learning to trust men by what we learn and see in our fathers. They teach us about what kind of men/boys to trust and to allow in our lives. With proper help and healing, over time you and especially your sister will learn to trust again.
PRAY FOR STRENGTH...ALWAYS!!!
On day you will forgive him, but for now embrass your sister, I'm sure she needs it.
Good luck and here's a BIG HUG from me to you!
2007-08-30 09:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by Reesie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for your family!!! This is a horrible thing but your sister is doing the right thing. Although your dad is a evil pig and your sister has been hurt so badly its not the baby's fault. Be there for your sister encourage her to keep and love this baby. Get your sister in as many church groups you can, you should go in also. Turn to God 100 % this is way to much for the two of you to deal with alone.. God bless both of you I pray the Lord heals you and your sister.
2007-08-30 08:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
'm so sorry about what happens first both you, your sister both need consoling then decide what to do about school she should be going to a special school or be educated over the Internet and both of you need to relax so go on a holiday so both of you can relax and start to try and figure out your situation she needs help with nutrition too and she probably is not ready to look after a child so she should put s/he up for adoption or if your mother is in the picture to her
i hope this helps and you and your sister get better from this trauma
2007-08-30 19:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋