i have a gf that cheated on me for 2 month and when i find out i forgave everything that she did in about 5 min after i find out and then she dose what ever she want and i will forgive her and say its fine but when i start to chat with the girl that i grow up with and i loved and i still do..she goes and says you love her and i cant coup with it and when i tell her she is my friend and she is in California and im in the uk how can anything happened btw me and my friend when there is a big distance btw me and her and i haven’t seen her for 8 years ... and i tell her all this and just to day she tells me that i cant fight for the love that you had all your life and stuff like that and tells me that i cant its over between us .. She doses all the cheating txting the guy the guys that she cheated on me and being so stupid..... And i still forgive her but she doesn’t see any of this and she still wana leave me... And I still love her but I don’t know what to do give me a way…plz
2007-08-30 01:08:46 · 10 answers · asked by yaboo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the thing is that i cant leave her i love her and she dident cheat on me anymore but somtimes she txt the guys that she cheated one me and i sed to her that i will give you one more chance to be good and she sed i will give you all my love i will never heart you and stuff and then i was a little ****** up becase of the girl that i grow up with because i love her and i always did but im not a cheater and i was trying to stop thinking that way about my friend but she gose that you love her and you will alwya will so i cant do this anymore ,..the girl in california is beautifull a virjin perfact in anyway. but i cant be with her and she dosent get it she dose wana fight for the love that i was fight all this time and i was just crying for a week before i found out about the cheating and then when i find out i was sick for a 3 week and i still didne give up on my realshonship with her..and she is willing to give up with out fighting is that good . and dont know wat to do it hard to let go.
2007-08-30 01:24:35 · update #1
Let go. Move on.
2007-08-30 01:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Katkin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You have two issues - one is that you need to stop being so needy. If someone cheats on you, it is fine to "forgive" them - but don't stay with them! Move on, and find someone who is more interested in being faithful than that.
The second is that you say in your question that you still love the friend in california... you need some closure there. Not cutting the person off as a friend - but coming to the place where you realise that relationship is over and that friendship is all that is left for you there. Maybe you are there - but to me, your description sounded like there was a bit more there than perhaps you are ready to admit... Until that is resolved, you may find yourself dealing with a series of problem relationships.
No one wants to be in a serious relationship where the other person's attention and emotions are divided. There's enough problems trying to love someone when there are pets or kids involved in the mix. Old boy/girlfriends, close relatives, etc. just make relationships a pain.
2007-08-30 01:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by Larry V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has been cheating for over 2 months, and is still cheating, WHY would you want to be with her. This is a girl that will keep on cheating and make a big scene that it is your fault and will never take the blame for her actions. It is up to you if you want to keep taking second place to her other boyfriends. Do not stop talking to an old friend, no one can tell you who to have for friends as long as they are good people and not getting you in trouble.
2007-08-30 01:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a woos and your girlfriend knows it.
She'll treat you like cr.ap forever.
You need to grow a backbone and find another girl.
The fact that you forgave her so easily makes you appear spineless and weak. No girl is going to find that attractive.
Move on. The other girl doesn't matter. You have bigger problems than that. She's just a friend, or, if you want her, move to California.
Dump your current girlfriend. She's lost all respect for you. I hope you find a better gal than her, anyway since she cheated on you.
By the way, when someone cheats on you, it's a deal-breaker. If you roll over on your back and forgive, you're setting yourself up for trouble.
2007-08-30 01:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Avsky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well its obvious you truly love her because you wouldn't have forgiven her all those times that she betrayed you. Honestly it sounds like you deserve much much better, noone deserves to be cheated on and cheated on again. I think she is looking for a way to make her self feel better for what she has done, so the only thing she can find is your friend in ca. Id say dump her, she doesn't deserve you, it also sounds like if you stay with her you will continue to get cheated on. Be careful and maybe you should reconsider your relationship. Good luck.
2007-08-30 01:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jenniferann88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if she loved you and wanted only you she would never of cheated in the first place. Second off your friend that are girl should matter to her if she is still texting and what not to this guy. so basicly she just useing you as a free ride so she can go do this guy and tell you what you want to her. if she messed up that fine no one is purfect. and to talk and tell her to stop then leaves ya she never really wanted you to. To be together the in first place,
2007-08-30 01:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by kristyerin1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she keeps cheating on you and then picks a fight with you about another girl. Not only is she a hypocrite but she wants to break up with you. She is looking for a fight. She does not love you. Get away... why would you want to be with someone who disrespects you
2007-08-30 01:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope i am understanding you.
If she keeps cheating, and making up reasons why she is upset with you, then it is probably time to move on.
You probably are a great guy. Find another girl.
2007-08-30 01:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by shoptheflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to take no for an answer, move on.
2007-08-30 01:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on now
2007-08-30 01:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋