Is it the general conception that Bi's cheat?

Question

Is it the general conception that bi's end up cheating with the opposite sex?
I know that some of us bisexuals do mess up, but I want to know is there anyone out there who would give Bi's a chance?

Answer 1

grace: sorry hun, it's an OPINION, not a fact, that most bisexuals cheat, unless you can come up with proof, which you can't. =)

it does seem to be the general concensus amongst a fair amount of the population, but there are plenty of people who are willing to give people a chance, and thankfully it tends to be the same type of person you want a long term relationship with anyway.

i mean, who wants to saddle up with someone who judges you based on your sexuality? thats a little too shallow for me.

Bi, in a monogamous relationship ( 3 years) and proud of it!

Answer 2

When I was young and stupid I have to admit that I believed that was true. Now that I've grown up, and met some wonderful bisexual folks, I KNOW that is is false. The propensity to cheat has absolutely nothing to do with sexuality, it's a character trait.

I would definitely date a bisexual woman and if we really "clicked" and had tons in common and fell in love I would be in a long-term relationship too. She'd have to do the asking out though, I'm way too shy....

Answer 3

Maybe it's my own narrow mindedness and the fact that I haven't really ever talked to someone who is bi about their sexuality, but I don't think I would want to be involved in any long-term relationship with one (assuming I was available).

I mean, people of every orientation are capable of cheating. But I think it would be nice to know that there is at least half of the population that your lover wouldn't cheat on you with.

I guess that's my own insecurity talking.

Answer 4

It seems to me that both partners should understand the situation and try to eliminate the word "cheat" from their vocabulary. In western and more specifically American society we think that relationship are strictly exclusive, this pattern is actually a fairy recent one in man's history and is not necessarily the best one.

Communicate with each other, involve the other in the other encounters if possible and by all means don't ignore or neglect your primary partner. So rather coming home and falling asleep, attack your partner for some hot fun (this will go a long way to keeping things in perspective).

Answer 5

My wife and I have an agreement, I can have sex with other guys but not with other women. She considers that (sex with chicks) to be cheating. She would rather I limit my sex with guys to my long time lover who she likes and respects.

He only requires that I not bareback with anyone else (he is monogamous with me). He knows that I have a need for an occasional anonymous partner with no strings attached and doesn't mind as long as I don't bring home any strays.

Answer 6

The word "cheating" was stolen by puritanical, Anglo-Saxon bigots to define what most straight couples have been doing since the times Church and State first decided to "govern" love and sex.

I do what I do, with whom I choose, at opportune times, with a conscious effort to hurt no one.

Third party opinions are irrelevant.

Answer 7

I don't think that all bisexuals cheat. I think that many people who have sex with men and women are not bisexual though but sociopaths who couldn't care less about the sexuality or identity of their partners. They will cheat. Definitely.

Answer 8

If you are in a committed relationship with one person, and you have sex with anyone else, it's cheating.

If you happen to be gay, straight, bi, whatever. Cheating is cheating. Unless you have defined your relationship to permit sex with other people. But that usually ends up with misunderstandings and someone getting hurt.

Answer 9

I figure Bi's are more likely to cheat just because they are the more tempted because they like men AND women.

Answer 10

No, I don't think that is the general conception among mature, more well-established people who accept sexual variation.