Instead of Women Wanting Husbands to Do More Housework, Why Don't Women Simply Quit Doing As Much as They Do?

Question

It is often said that women would like their husbands to do more housework.

What would happen if the women simply did less?

How dirty would the house become before the husband pitches in more? Is there anything unhealthy or illegal about letting a house get dirtier? Or are houses kept so clean to keep a woman "satisfied" and full of pride?

Men who live on their own do 100% of the housework. They do NOT go to jail for living in totally unacceptable conditions.... even though they may not keep their house as clean as a single woman might.

I haven't seen any single dads go to jail because their kids starve to death or don't have clean clothes.

Maybe I'm asking whether women are trying to impose their higher standards of "clean" onto the marriage. Is that right? Is that a sign of someone trying to impose "control"?

How much housework do Bill and Obama do?

I find this topic sort of amusing.

My #1 worry is to make sure that my wife has plenty of money to survive into old age, pay her health care, property taxes, and not live in poverty.

ruth, this belongs in politics because of NOW, feminism, etc etc

Answer 1

The modern woman
1. most women are very messy and lazy in house cleaning
2. if single women clean there house they must be trying to catch a man.
3. Have you ever cleaned a womans car, just plain trashy.
4. Most women do not know how to cook other than BOX meals.

The modern man should be smart, BUT!!!!!!!!
1. Find a woman that has a good job
2. Be a stay at home father and house carer
3, Control all the money, so she has no worries.
4. Cook and clean after her, run her bath water.
5. don't be a fool stay at home, when the kids are in school you can be at the local bar.

Answer 2

I think if you came over to my house you would see the fallacy of you proposal. I don't clean until the paths in the clutter get filled in by more clutter, and then only when I start to get hurt when wading through the piles. My means test for washing dishes is when I can't fill a glass with water because there is no room between the pile of dishes in the sink and the faucet.

Naturally when I'm at my other house, the one where my girlfriend resides, I am more tidy, mainly because she makes an effort to keep it clean, I feel guilty. But still, I don't clean nearly as often as she does.

I doubt Bill or Osama ever do anything to contribute (more important things to do no doubt) , but I'm sure they both have servants to pick up after them and their wives.

By the way, my first job included cleaning the locker rooms at the pool I worked at. If I opened I had to clean the ladies locker rooms as well as the mens. I noticed something, the women's locker room was always more filthy than the men's when I came in. Apparently the girls who would close wouldn't clean it (the guys who closed did clean the mens room), but even so, I have never seen such filth in a public place.

Answer 3

I grew up in household where my father played more of an active role in the housework than my mother. I feel that equal distribution of housework is a sign of respect, particularly when both partners work.

I don't think it's about high standards of clean or control. Many times people don't discuss gender roles or household chores when they enter a relationship and conflict results.

Bill and Obama can afford help. Can you?

Answer 4

I find this question hardly belongs in politics.

For me, however, it has to do with keeping order in the home. Women today have so many additional responsibilities outside the home that they hardly need to come home from work and be slaves.

I'm saying this as a divorced single mother/divorce attorney. People are getting divorced over this issue of marital responsibilities. Sad but true.

ADDED: Feminism? A dead issue in my opinion. We have had working women my entire life. Don't expect that to change--single motherhood has RISEN, not fallen. My house is neat, and I'm hardly trying to catch a man. I am, however, trying to raise one fit for the world he's growing up in. My car is attrocious. :)

Answer 5

Speak for yourself, when I was married I did ALL the housework.

Divorce rules!