I'm asking this cos I have been reading all the answers to my last q. I can picture some of those weddings, the romantic ones, the happy stories and memories, the sad ones where some of you have lost your partners after long and happy marriages, the dads that weren't there to give you away.
Anyway, I am sat here with tears in my eyes now cos I feel like I've been to your weddings! Thank you for sharing your stories with us all. I don't know how I am going to choose ba out of them cos they are all deserving.
My question is, why do you think we feel the need to cry at weddings when it is a happy occasion?
That's my tears spent for the day! l feel great now! lol x
2007-08-30 00:02:55 · 39 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
As soon as I answer this one I shall seek out your other question!
My age is such that I have to answer this one before I forget what I wanted to say ......... growing old aint easy!!
I cry at weddings because I think of all the things that the couple are going to have to face in the coming years - hopefully together - and I always think to myself 'Enjoy today babies - because from here on in it starts getting tough!'
Its a moment in time when they (the couple) seem to be in a bubble of love that will protect them from all the ghastly stuff that is out there and that is sure to come knocking on their door at some time in the future. And I always say a prayer that they remember the day when the dark clouds arrive.
Now - I'm off to find your other question ..............
YOU ARE GETTING TO BE A FULL TIME JOB!!!!!
2007-08-30 00:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Much to my surprise I do. I find that the act of launching out into a whole new identity and life style warrants a few tears by an old seasoned traveler. It is a journey, a commitment, an investment of your life and a prayer for success. It is a happy occasion, you're right, but it is also wisdom's way of expressing the unknowable. . . . . . that it will take years of experience filled with a myriad of emotional ups and downs to make this relationship work and last. It is the identity of a journey in time.
2007-09-01 13:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by autumlovr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go to a wedding without making sure first that there's a supply of Kleenex in my purse! At my own...the first and big church wedding...things went well until after the "I do's" and we walked down the aisle. My new sister-in-law grabbed my husband and gave him a big, tearful hug, and that was all I needed....my own tears started and went on all through greeting friends and family in the reception line. Think it must have been a release of tension and those pre-wedding jitters, because it all came out in a flood of emotion!
2007-08-30 04:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by night-owl gracie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have gone to lots of family weddings at Quaker Meetings. There they write their own vows, and all the guests can speak if they choose to and all guests sign as witnesses.
When people speak at these weddings I have been brought to alughter and to tears.
When a teenager sppoke at her mother's wedding and said if she could have chosen her own step father she could not have done a better job, allmost everyone had tears in their eyes!
Yes, even the tuff guys. The groom especially was teary eyed, because he had not known how much she cared for him!
2007-09-01 10:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by I'mForPeace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cry at everything, and weddings of every form pretty much; on TV, in real life. I cried at my own 2 weeks ago, I was just overwhelmed to see everybody there and by what was going on. I was a bit dissappointed though, cos I was just desparate to get up to my H2B so that I could cling on to his hand, I didn't really take him in, and I wish I'ld been able to more appreciate that first look as I came up the ailse!
2007-08-30 00:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always cry at weddings, I'm a big old romantic at heart. They are happy tears though, the emotion of the day never fails to get the better of me.
2007-08-30 00:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only wedding I ever cried at was when my daughter got married.. She was, and still is, the apple of my eye. I was so proud, but at the same time so sorry to be losing her.. I never actually lost her, I gained another son, and two lovely grand children.. .. But the thought of her not being at home really made me very weepy for a while... At the same time I was very happy for her to have such a wonderful husband.. Much as I love my two sons, I did not have the same feelings at their weddings.. They too have met and married lovely wives and have provided another 6 lovely grand children. We are a very happy ,close family.
2007-08-30 02:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG I had a complete meltdown at my sons wedding ! I embarassed myself ! I was crying as if I was at his funeral, and it wasnt because I thought the wedding was a bad idea.
I cry at everything. I have cried looking at a sunset ! I got a job once because I cried during the interview when I was talking about working with refugees and how this one man had one of his twins shot --
I cry when I see a plane crash on TV. Recently they showed the highway of heros in Canada and the firemen and police and citizens lining up all along the route the fallen Cnd soldiers take when they leave the airport -- oh cr*p I am crying just writing that ! :-( I had a total meltdown watching that news story -
I cry when someone is giving birth on TV, I cry when they show injured children or preemies - a friend of mine once said to me "you have tears for the whole world dont you?" Well I gotta get it under control
I have had a meltdown at every funeral I have ever been to, my father in laws I was in pieces. When my fiance died I have a total three day blank - I had to be almost carried out of that funeral.
I dont even have to KNOW the person who died, I start looking around and thinking of all these people who have lost someone they love and here come the waterworks.
I cry like a baby when I am over tired --grrrrrrrr I used to cry when I am angry, at least I dont do that anymore.
ITS SO BAD. And so embarassing !!
When I went into the wild fire zone in 2003 to photograph what was going on I was just fine until I ran out of film and had nothing to do but LOOK - total meltdown --
Watching the Katrina updates last night I was really close to crying, had to get up and walk around for awhile.
My daughter is getting married this fall and I am already worrying about HOW I will get through that? I am going to take some kind of medication I think -- SOMETHING HAS TO DONE to turn off the water works. She said to me last night "dont you dare embarass me".
2007-08-30 08:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by isotope2007 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I've never cried at a wedding but I have cried about a wedding afterwards, when it all went wrong.I have laughed at a funeral though, not out of irreverance but because the deceased had left us all an order that we were to laugh and be happy because she hated anything miserable, but we were also unutterably sad as well.
2007-08-30 07:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been to that many but the most recent one i did, because the bride and groom looked so wonderful, he ruggedly handsome and she beautifully radiant and i thought they are so well suited and will make each other very happy. He had a really bad time in a previous relationship so it was good to see him look to the future with hope and love. Now they have a beautiful son and their little family is complete.
2007-08-30 00:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋