how can i become confident?

Question

MORE CONFIDENT

Answer 1

Self confident people perceive themselves as able to achieve those things they set out to do and this perception creates reality in their lives.

Yes, perception creates reality. You can become the person you want to be. You have heard it said that if you can believe it you can achieve it.

So start believing in yourself, acting on that belief and you will start building self confidence in your life.

Here are some helpful tips to build self confidence one success at a time.

1. Make a list of your strong points.

All the positive things about yourself and the things that you are good at doing. Think of compliments you have received or things that come easily to you. It doesn't matter what it is, if it's good, write it down.

2. Choose two of those things that you want to work on to improve even more.

It's important to succeed and by concentrating on the areas you are already good at you will have a better chance of becoming even more sure of yourself. Remember that success builds upon success.

3. Exude confidence even if you don't feel like it.

Talk to yourself in an encouraging way and stay away from negative thoughts and people as you can.

Instead surround yourself with positive, confident, and successful people. This will become a habit and one that will build confidence.

4. Look at yourself in a different way than you are used to doing.

It can change your life and help your confidence level to rise. See yourself as the self confident person you want to be and before you know it you will become that person.

If you have a set-back do not let it get the best of you. Remember the times when you exhibited self confidence and how good it felt and then try again and each time will help you to build confidence and confidence building will become a way of life.

Answer 2

In order to overcome your fears, you have to work on your confidence. When you practice being confident, you will have a better time succeeding with your goals in life. Determine your strengths and weaknesses, take risks, being more optimistic, and learning to overcome fear are a few examples I came across on

Answer 3

This really has to be dealt with on a case to case basis but in order to be more confident in something first you must ask yourself what scares you the most in that something and then why. Once you know why you either accept it or lose it at which point confidence will take over.

But being that confidence comes from believing you can do something... so you need to have practice and successes. If your always too scared to try anything its going to be hard for you to get confidence..

Like i said lack of confidence stems from internal fears....
So find out what scares you the most in a situation and try to do something about it.... for every situation you might have a different answer but eventually youll have patterns and youll become just overall confident...

Answer 4

Take action. Confidence comes from taking action. Break your challenge down into small steps and take that first step, no matter how small it seems. Find a role model. Look for someone who is already successful in your field. Observe him or her and identify for yourself what behaviors convey self-confidence. Look and act powerful. Watch people who create a powerful impression. It could be a TV anchor, a character in a movie, or a coworker. Imagine yourself behaving in a similar way. For an example, watch the movie Top Hat. Fred Astaire exudes confidence. Be aware of nonverbal behavior that detracts from presenting yourself with confidence. Ask for feedback from a trusted friend or watch yourself on videotape. Persist. Self-confidence is the result of a lot of hard work. The process takes time. It has been said that success is 99% persistence and 1% talent.

Wish you luck !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Confident means you know yourself and what you are capable of, and not backing down from that. Having said that, I never had any til I started working in construction, because you'll get walked over without it. The best way to start is to hold your head up. Look people in the eye. And practise speaking like you know what your talking about (no question mark at the end of your verbal sentance, umms or ahhs.) If you pretend long enough, you'll feel it. When you aren't sure how to respond, don't worry about taking a few seconds to think. Or say "I'll get back to you." And be nice, you'll get what you want more often (promise!) especially with security guards, secrataries, etc. They have the keys to anywhere, who to talk to, how to get what you need.

Good luck!

Answer 6

hey there! I just answered a question very similar to this one so I'm just going to copy and paste the answer I gave if that's okay with you:)

you must understand yourself in order to understand others.

interacting with things and people teach you this:

how patient you are; how curious; how sexy; how power hungry; how lonely; how funny; how insightful

how logical; how emotional; how tall; how flexible; how intellectual; how spiritual; how judgemental

you're at a cafe and you overhear a conversation with a subject you don't understand. do you:
tune it out? laugh out loud? read a book? move to a quieter seat?

no matter what you choose, be conscious of your choices and know then that this is part of you.

the humor you find in situations that are not "born" amusing, this is because of the contribution of your perspective.

the sadness you find in the passing an auto crash or watching a tragedy on the news, this is your level of compassion, your ability to feel the pain or the loss of strangers. Others see the same things and feel anger, shock, apathy, pain. It is their contribution.

The ones you see who hold this confidence in speaking and motivating others to go to the bar with them, to a concert, to join with them in a business venture, they know themselves so well that they are unconcerned about WHAT they will say and WHAT they will do in a given circumstance.

They already know how sensitive they are and what is too much, what isn't enough. They gravitate towards the environment where they are strongest and most comfortable.

Politicians soothe people with their words, picking the words that make others feel that they have been heard and understood and that they have the sympathy of the representative.

Coaches use action words and key into the aggression in their team members to keep them focused on the goal. They instill in them the desire to achieve and to push harder and faster. They are comfortable with being intense and telling others what to do.

I'm a customer service representative and I've found it fits my personality well because I am a people pleaser. I like people to tell me what it is they want and I give them the information or tools they need to achieve it. I'm not the kind of person who can coach because, once I give the information, I know it will take a lifetime to master the skill. What you have asked, for example, will require massive exposure to people and the willingness to lose a lot of arguments, embarrassing moments where you acted on faulty or absent knowledge but, in doing so, your 'opponent' exposes an area that you may not have known existed that is now going to be a key tool for communication in the future.

Only a fear of mistakes and embarrassment keeps us from growing socially. Look at every situation as information gathering and be willing to be the one to ask the dumb questions. There will be some jerks who will quickly try to embarrass you for your lack of understanding, but picture them as "!" marks that say "click on me for more information!" Which, by the way, is very flattering for them and will probably earn you MORE social points.

Answer 7

Body language is a good starter:-
always have a smile on your face because people think you've been up to something!
Stride in to a room, head held high, get noticed instantly.
Make eye contact with a smile, people appreciate being noticed.
Crack a joke+make people laugh, its very attractive+shows confidence.
Make positive statements about others, bitchy comments bring people down.
Get yourself a new haircut, new clothes or something to boost your hormones.

Also, declutter your social scene by disassociating yourself with negative people. Focus on the positive even if its small, it'll make a difference to your frame of mind.
Don't "make do" with something or someone, aim higher and hold out until you get it!

Answer 8

i have the same problem and that is probably why i am still single because women like confident men.I am trying to appear more confident by feeling better about myself by taking more care of my appearance and getting fitter.I believe by feeling confident inside you will be confident outside

Answer 9

Hi,

It is always funny to think about what happens around me back then.

He is so smart, but he choose to be lazy.
She is so pretty, but she thinks she is not that smart, attractive, and so on (although lots of boys likes her)
He is so rich, but he is acting like a poor. (This is my pencil, dont touch it!)

On the other hand,

He is not that smart, but he has lots of friends
She is not that pretty, but she can get along with boys, girls, and even teachers
She is poorer than the others, but she is always asked about difficult matter about business and daily life.

Weird isn't it.

Now, how to become confident?
You have to get used to see the positive sides of yourself, and try to make the bad sides of yours to be better and better and better.

Oh yea, never let others dictate what you do and behave and act.

Hope this helps.

Kind regard,
Ryonn

Answer 10

You are the center of what you observe. Part of the Big Picture of Humanity. You have every right to be here. Your contribution to mankind can only be measured by your lifetime. Make wise choices and maybe, just maybe, you will make a Difference. In our search for perfection, we sometimes find Excellence!