Short Tampered and Harrassing Wife?

Question

It is a Nine years Sad story when i got maried to our same cast girl I mdoing a job and staying in deep suburb of Mumbai with my 72 yr old Father and 65 year old mother I M only son of them. I have 8 years old Boy in Std 3rd Now the story is my wifes nature and our family members including me and my relatives are different, She want to live seperately with me and my son - No Problem, she expact a lot from me but i m middle class normal man and not a super man. She expect that i should always think abour her only not about my parents, sisters, relatives , friends etc. where as she always eager to go with her family. I loves to my old age parents a lot and also belive that it is now my duty to look after them if i get seperated how they will manage their work, who will llok after them But my wife tried all the tectics to start nusance call for police many times try to get suicide, even threaten me for killing hereself and my child, i dont know in my little salary how can i manage.

Answer 1

You need to try to have a long talk with your wife. ask her how she would feel if you wanted her not to help her parents in their old age. Tell her that you love her and want to make her and your child happy too. see if there is not some way to compromise with her. If not, you might want to try talking to her parents and ask them to talk to her about the situation.

Answer 2

I can under stand your state of mind. Marriages are the institutions which can make ones life beautiful of miserable for ever and ever. Sorry to say but yours is miserable one.

First of all about your parents, I liked the ways you cared for them and you seem to be a man who knows his responsbilities and duties towards the parents when they need you.

Secondly you have bear with her from long 9 to 10 years, it is a limit . Hats off to you how you mannaged for so long.

Thirdly you are saying that she approached police and tried to commit suicide and every harrase your kids by beating them.

Forthly I never advised anyone to divorce each other because I hate this word, it not only will disturbe your life but also two families relationship will be ruined.

Fifthly there would be something let you check that what is that which makes are mad in your parents might be something serious, sorry but do they interface in small small affairs of both of you.

Sixthly let you discuss the full episode with her parents might be they will be of any help to me, she will surely listen to them as girls are more attached to her parents.

Seventhly if no other alternative just leave her then only she will learn a lesson or just bring in a divorce papers with the consent of a good lawyer who can guide you properly and ask her to sign, might she will learn a lesson and every thing will be in control.

Hope you will get out of it as early as possible and be happy don't worrry be a self starter , you take this problem normally , every thing will be fine. just keep faith on God and take his help because in good times we remember him and in bad days we forget.

I have answered it before also.
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Answer 3

i will tell you one thing this let it be any indian women for that matter irrespective of any caste , religion or any sort in looking they want onething is to marry a man then screw is happiness then they throw more weight & tantrums if the man is a simple , quiet , and great patience fellow they normally feel man should forget all relationship and surrender and remain subdued .brother iwant you to tell onething be brave call your wives relative and tell them before something drastic happens normally some women become hysteric after child birth. or try to get a job out of india keep your parents seperately that is only solution , god give you courage

Answer 4

Typical porblem of Materialistic Indian women of these days they marry and want the husband to be a Ghar Jumai (which actually means husband being a parasite to the wife's family) but now of a different sense ie. Money and everything from the husband ie she and her family becoming a parasite of you.

If you would want to know where your family life is headed check www.saveindianfamiyl.org and www.498a.org. Move and take the necessary measures before she and her family destroys you and your kid's life!!

Answer 5

I don't know what to tell you. I am currently reside in Canada, and am planning on going back to SE Asia to work for a year or two, and I have been warned by alot of people about women likes these....

At first I brushed it aside...but after 5 people have told you the same thing...you start to wander...

Good luck with you situation, I hope everything can be fixed.

Answer 6

Take her for good counseling… talk with her… If she doesn’t agree
Then go for a divorcé. See u can get a better half after that also. But ur parents cant get a
Son at this age.Give her a chance to change herself.If not proceed ur life with ur old parents..

Answer 7

It is natural. The only solution is live separately with wife and child. Let the parents stay in the present house and support your parents as much as you can.

Answer 8

You are too good for her. She is using you. Find yourself a real woman. Get a restraining order against her. There is such a thing as spousal abuse on a man. She is completely messed in the head.

Answer 9

get rid of this cow explain the situation to your parents and they ll support you she cannot go far with her stuck up ness she is heartless for saying and doing this from you old aged parents

help your self get a divorce and live your life ghet married again and find a mother who is not willing to kill your boy because your not spening adequate time with her

Answer 10

it wld be diffucult to face such thing in city like urs, bt wad i wanna say is that as u had gt married to her its ur response to take care fr ur wife... try to compromise as much as u can, dnt use any form of harrasement as violence led to no good in future.