How do you mentally handle being dumped by your girlfriend for someone that you know?, i still love her and miss her badly and it constantly eating me up, i kicked off with the guy she left me fors friend the other night because i didn't like how he was speaking to me, i thought he was taking the piss but he was actually just being friendly, i did apologise for it afterwards when i'd had time to think and i bought him a drink.
How can i stop it eating away at me?? its been six months+ of no contact, all i hear about off people is how shes now going on holiday with him and stuff like that, it absolute mental torture i think about it every minute of everyday, i dont think that i can take it much more.
I was thinking that forgiveness might be the answer but to forgive them for what they both did and how cruel they were to me is really bordering on impossible, i just want to kill him for it.
I've been going out, i've reconnected with old friends and i do loads of exersise.
2007-08-29 22:23:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
so i really am trying to get over this and be strong but i just cant see the light at the end of the tunnel at the moment.
I cant take much more.
2007-08-29 22:24:14 · update #1
Time to grow up. Those things happen. Unfortunately we can not make the person we love, love us. Just try to avoid her, and tell your friends that the subject of her if off limits. Eventually, you will find someone that can share the love that you have to give. Good Luck!!
2007-08-29 22:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think your obsessiveness was a factor in the breakup?
Acceptance is important here too. you constantly blame him for this and not your ex. As they are still together i doubt that it is a 'fling' and that she is a willing part of this. Could you accept that she is to blame as well?
You are getting there, you apologised for kicking off at him.
This is going to be a long battle for you. Until you let go you will not be able to form another relationship and that isn't good.
Sit down and think about the whole situation, your faults included. Think about why they got together, what lead up to it. And be completely honest about it too.
Not much help I know but this length of time still brooding is unhealthy.
Good luck!
2007-08-30 05:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Spammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just gone through a major break up and still have contact with the love of my life. You need to forgive her. Once you do that the mental anguish will start to subside. Trust me.
You must also understand that, no matter how long it takes, you are not stupid or foolish for feeling like this.
But please do not take this the wrong way but if you truly love her you will let her go.
It will hurt I will not lie but forgive them, it will help.
2007-08-30 05:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happen to you now is too bad...but you have to be glad because at the end you know how your girlfriend does. you have to help yourself to move on than you keep thinking about her. Remember what to do... is better to forgive than hurt in return and God will give you a real blessing that is good for you...I mean a real happiness,a real love and a true girl for you that can love her.
2007-08-30 05:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by DarlingBaby mybabyPete 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thin you can do is get out there and meet someone else I know it sounds hard to do but if your ex sees you getting on with your life maybe she wont like it
2007-08-30 05:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no quick fix for this.
Only time can heal ...... IT WILL get easier..... i promise. x
2007-08-30 05:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋