Im 16 and split with my ex 10 months ago and have since then become one of her closest friends! I dont know what to do! She just split with my best mate after having dumped me for him, so shes single. I have no idea what to do about this, i feel that im in love with her but will never get anywhere because i know that she doesnt feel the same way at all...and that hurts soo bad! Any advice please?!
2007-08-29 22:06:19 · 15 answers · asked by shishuzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your way too young to be thinking about "the one". Go out and test the waters. Or else you'll be wishing you had later. I got together with my ex when I was 15 and stayed with her till I was 23. I could slap myself for all the tang I passed up. Legally, you only get one chance in life to nail high school chicks. Don't squander it chasing this broad.
2007-08-29 22:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Haywood Jablomee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there, I know what it is like.
It is easy to fall into the trap of just sulking and feeling sorry for yourself or imagining what coud have been. But don't do this because it really is a trap that is difficult to get out of.
You need to re-discover yourself. What did you used to do for fun before you met her? Get back into that. Or pick up a new hobby. Learn to play an instrument, learn sign language, do anything that will take your mind away from her. Doing something new is great because nothing about it is connected to memeries of the other person - it is all yours.
Have an appearance overhaul. Something as simple as getting a different haircut helps because then when you look in the mirror you see the NEW you, not the old you that is connected to that person.
Explain to her that you may want to be her friend but at least for a little while you need your space. Cut off all contact. I know what it is like, you try to find any old excuse to talk to them DON'T DO IT. You can be friends after you are over her, but not before. Delete their number and their e-mail address. Do it now, it is important.
Open your heart. This is the most difficult part, you need to meet new people and open up your heart. You need to date other people. Give any interested person (within reason) a chace of one date. If you don't feel comfortable after a date then fine, but give them a honest chance.
Also, don't put the other person up on a pedistole, they did have faults. I bet when you think of them you are only thinking of their positive points. I bet you are thinking about how beatiful and perfect they were? Well guess what, they probably aren't all that. Your mind is only letting you remember the good moments but I promise you that once you move on and see them a couple of years from now you will think "What was the big attraction?"
2007-08-29 22:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't feel the same for you you should accept the facts and be a man. If you develop an obsession for this girl, you will be in mayor trouble.
You're 16, you still have a lot to explore. See your love life as an adventure in which you want to make many people happy. So, a lot of girls out there want to teach you things and want learn things from you. Seize the day.
2007-08-29 22:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Carlos Mal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Jesus boy, she dumped you for your best mate and you still love her, let alone are friends with her? Where the **** is your pride? Boy, you better fish your balls out of her purse and reclaim your manhood and dump that ***** like the bag of trash she is.
2007-08-29 22:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by Julius C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm find something to do...get your mind off of her, and if having a friendship with her hurts, then maybe you guys shouldnt hang out so much. Eventually you will find someone else.
Good Luck...
2007-08-29 22:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Karla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't feel that way let it go of she is going to hurt you once more. Find someone else...She'll then probably become jealous and want you back.
2007-08-29 22:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jen E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in school, and become a very powerful person and never look back.
2007-08-29 22:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by BDP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T ASK ANY MORE QUESTION ON THIS TOPIC.....
Instead ask a question is
Anyone interested in me, I am split with my ex 10 months ago.
2007-08-29 22:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being in love with her?
Ok, I know how you feel.
Im still in love with Hayley. ::)
Find someone new, move on.
It takes time, and you may never not bein lurve wif her.
2007-08-29 22:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't handle seeing her with other people, then you need to cut ties with her, and move on.
2007-08-29 22:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋