i know this may sound crazy but i think i'm falling for someone i've never met. i am in the beginning of a divorce from a verbally abusive husband, so i decidd to meet some new friends for fun. i ended up meeting this guy who's only 22 and i'm 34. he says all the right things, calls and texts just because, and is gorgeous and sexy as hell!!!
We've been communicating online and through webcam and he lives here in michigan. all in a months time daily.
i just wonder if i'm really fallin for him or what. i know i'm probably being stupid but i cant' help it.
it was initially supposed ot be a no strings sex type of thing then we just clicked. so maybe that's all he wants? i'm just wondering why he gives me so much attention? please let me know if you think i'm being stupid and if i should do this. i want to have sex with him cuz i surely do need it and i am soooo attracted to him. but how do i separate sex from emotions. i don't know if i'm capable of that unless it was a one nighter.
2007-08-29 20:00:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him what he wants. Sometimes people start thinking one thing and they change their mind as the relationship develops. Then again, maybe all he wants is sex and he's really excited about it.
When we met randomly online, my husband and I weren't looking for relationships, didn't expect to ever meet each other, and certainly weren't planning on falling in love. We were busy getting divorced and absolutely never going to get married ever again. We weren't ready for new relationships due to divorce related insanity, the age difference was absolutely crazy. Oops. I'm not saying this guy you met is your knight in shining armour; odds are against it, but don't let anybody convince you these things never happen.
If you're not sure you can separate sex from emotions, though, (perfectly normal) maybe it's not a good idea to sleep with him if he just wants sex; I bet you're already in enough emotional turmoil from the divorce - why throw yourself for another loop?
2007-08-29 20:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you are in a very vulnerable position of getting out of an abusive relationship. This man you've never met in person is giving you exactly what he knows you are looking for because you have spilled your guts to him. He's so playing you for sex. If you can't separate your emotions from sex, how could a one nighter benefit you, other than making you feel like scum the next morning. This guy could be a real weirdo. Why not end this before it gets out of control and turns into something really destructive to your psyche which is very delicate right now. Put your energy into keeping your head straight during the divorce. Hang with your real friends and relatives who love you and won't hurt you and will be there for you. Let yourself heal for several months before you go looking to hook up with someone and then meet someone in person or through a friend or family member.
2007-08-30 03:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stopped reading at "22 & 34". Look at those figures...sounds like you'll do anything to get out of your situation. Right now your 22 y/o stud puppet is giving you the medicine your heart needs but don't put so much into him. He's got too much catching up to do to reach your (supposed) level. Yes, get out of the abusive marriage but don't think you're going to get much help from loverboy (emotionally or otherwise) after you're out.
2007-08-30 03:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, on line affairs are based on fantasy. People involved in them only show their good sides or made up sides. You are also still married and you are committing on line infidelity. You should try and improve your marriage, go to marriage counseling by your self if your husband won't go and see what you can do to make your marriage better. When you said your wedding vows you promised to stay with your husband, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer until DEATH do us part. Or did you not really mean what you vowed on your wedding day? If you didn't really mean what you said then your word is worthless.
2007-08-30 03:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead ..have sex with him..It will then definitely answer both of u whether u were in love or just his support to in time of need made u fell for him..If u still continue to have emotions for him after sex then it is a real love..
2007-08-30 03:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to figure out if that's all he wants or if he is really into you.. by the way you want to have sex with him and never met him.. hmm that's crazy, you don't know if he has a disease.. by the way, you alone will know him..
2007-08-30 03:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by hottie7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get caught it will give your hubby ammo in the divorce.
Enjoy your in between lust patrner.
2007-08-30 03:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by jersey city Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋