Is your first year of marriage really the hardest?

Question

Or is it after you have children?

Im having fun...we had our tiffs here and there but does it get harder?

Answer 1

The first is said to hardest as you are setting up home and a life. Marriage is what you both make it ,if you respect each other and talk thing through together ,don`t expect to much from one another and it all can be a breeze,it is hard when children arrive because you have the extra worry about sickness etc,But again if both partners to the marriage help each other it is easier.Take it one day at a time and you will cope ,And i have been married to same woman 27yrs

Answer 2

Well, for me it was the first four years! True love, however can bear ALL things, and endure all things! If not for the love, and committment we had, and still have for each other it would have been extremely hard.
Children are truly a blessing, but they can complicate things.Make sure your relationship is really strong and secure before deciding to have them.Take this time to get to know your husband, learn from each other, spend a lot of quality time together! You'll be just fine!

Answer 3

every yr in a marriage takes work from both parties if u want it to work out, so they are all hard until you have reached the half way mark 25yrs, by then you know what, when & where to speak. this keeps a lot of arguements at bay. children make it fun @ first until the pressures of parenting effects 1 more than the other.

Answer 4

I've never understood the 1st year of marriage as being claimed to be the hardest , I know that after the house is bought and the kid's pop out is when the garbage fighting and arguing start .
I think if the 1st year is hardest you shouldnt have gotten married in the 1st place.

Answer 5

I'm not married, but I'd probably say the first year. If you haven't lived together previously, then that's probably going to be hard; just getting adjusted to the way the other lives, how they keep their space, how they spend most of their time, etc. Because the relationship is fresh too, the problems that you end up having (even if their smaller) are probably going to be blown out of proportion because you may not be used to having them or you haven't learned to properly deal with them. I think there's a quote or something that even says if you make it through your first year of marriage, you'll make it through anything. Not quite true by today's standards, haha, but I hope I helped!

Answer 6

The first year is nothing, its more like the first 5....When the children come its more like your get a type of relieve(if your a man).

Answer 7

Marriage is always a challenge. Two people have to be willing to work together to keep things right.

You should treat each other like you want to be treated, be kind, caring, sharing, understanding, tolerant, patient, giving, selfless, have unconditional love, be quick to forgive and slow to anger. Always remember your vows to each other until DEATH do us part.

Answer 8

no the last one before the actual divorce... my first year was difficult and eventually 19 years of the same skipping record brought it to its end...

Answer 9

oo ya
but u got to think u got 2 diffent lives as much as u love each other still blending in to one

Answer 10

Hell no. In my first year of marriage I was madly in love with my husband so I would accept anything that was dished out to me, even his mother constant interference. It is when you fall out of love that your marriage gets really hard