I wish I would make (and keep) more friends.
I think my problem is that I get tired and overwhelmed easily...so that if I'm invited out after work I might consider going but often I'll just feel too tired to make myself go. While I like hanging out with others, it's not relaxing or stimulating but instead "takes a lot out of me." It is VERY hard for me to motivate myself to try new things or to go to new places even though I usually enjoy myself once I go.
How can I get out of this rut and make myself do things/socialize even when I don't feel like it?
2007-08-29 17:57:40 · 5 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
drink some red bull or smoke some weed or drink any of those 3
2007-08-29 18:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long has this been going on? Is it a new thing? I would suggest that if it has been going on quite a while, you seek the advice of a professional - either a psychologist or psychiatrist - who can lead you in the right direction as to how to solve this.
If it is a new thing and maybe it involves a little bit if shyness, just do it! It's hard sometimes to open up because that allows us to be vulnerable, but it gets easier with time.
You deserve to have fun, too!
2007-08-30 01:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Debi N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try meditating, and keep to your close friends and people you enjoy hanging out with. Since energies make you drained, it is a sign you are spreading yourself too thin. Know that it is okay to be alone, and it is not isolation!
Try doing things alone or with one buddy. I think you will benefit alot from aromatherapy oils, scented baths, and just by yourself with a book. It is okay, and you do not need to fulfil the popular stereotype of the groupie or extrovert if you're not inclined.
Loads of people are like you and you're not the only one.
I always enjoy time to myself; I used to feel bad, but now I enjoy every minute of it!
2007-08-30 01:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make yourself go. Just make sure you don't get involved with the wrong crowd because they will ruin your life. When your co-workers ask you to hang out after work then go do it. You said it yourself that you enjoy it when you go out. Do you like going to work? I don't and I am sure most people don't like to either. But we still get up in the morning 5 days a week and go to work. Think it like that. The different is that you are going to have fun instead of working. After a while you'll get used to it and before you know it you'll be asking them to hang out instead of them asking you. Have fun, don't do drugs, and don't drink and drive!
2007-08-30 01:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. start by going out say once a week or twice a week. Sounds like you have a limit. Find out how much you can handle and only socialise that much. That way you can stil socialise and not overwhelm yourself. And hopefully you will find that as you do this you can handle a bit more. It makes sense to me.
2007-08-30 01:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋