What Do You Get Out Of Having People Betray You?

Question

Like stab you in the back?

You must get something out of it...for you to beckon it into your life...no?

Answer 1

In March someone I loved & thought I knew betrayed me in an very hurtful way. I brought this woman & her child who fell on hard times into my home. In the end she stole jewelry & money valued at over $150,000.00. It was not about the money, if I had been concerned with the money I never would have moved her in to begin with. It wasn't even about the jewelry, although it did have sentimental value & can not be replaced. It was that she very deliberately did this, stole what I already gave her freely. It hurt because of "old programing" I carried around that to other people I am only worth what I can do or give to them. But after a while I really was able to see that she did not do it to me, it really was not personal, she just was doing it, & I happen to be the person available. I learned so much from this. I had to look at my part & these issues. Even though the "progam" was screaming in my ears, other women rallied to support me. I learned what true friendship was & that not everyone is just out to get what they can. I learned that although my motives were to help, I actually did the wrong thing for all the right reasons by moving her in my home, I had enabled her. She has moved on to do this same exact thing to 3 other people. I struggled for awhile on what to do, whether to get the police involved etc. Then one night I actually heard in my head, "It should be obvious to you by now that you do not know what is best for her, but I do. Follow the laws of your state, cooperate with the authorities, & leave the results to me." Today I can honestly say I still love her & under stand that she is sick, but what happens next for her is not in my control. So out of a long winded story I can say that what I really got out of that betrayal was a lesson in forgiveness, learning to love & see the real person & not judge their essence by their deeds, learning what real friendship is about, that I am much more than what I can give or do for another, & a Spirit hit to top it all off. We live in a world where sometimes apparent bad things happen, even when your heart is in the right place, but when it does happen learn to gleen everything you can, you will be suprised. Bitterness is not a reward.

Answer 2

Friends.

Enemies don't stab you in the back, not unless you let them close enough to stab you in the back.

I would never be foolish enough to let that happen.

No, friends stab me in the back.

Then I get asked what happened and I say "so n so" did this and I was out or I took the blame and that's that.

"Well, that's not right."

"Yea", but; that is the way things go sometimes.

I would not have done the same thing to them, but then again, I would not have been them, so; that is a moot point.

In the meanwhile, I get to be who I am, and; they get to be my friends and vice versa.

Remember everyone who stabbed Caesar that day in the forum was considered his friend, especially Brutus, the unkindest cut of all.

I could also point out that for a while there the sun is on your face and that is a great feeling to be in the front of the pack long enough to feel the sun's warmth, but; that is a bit corny.

Here is a little bit of trivia from an old friend, the majority of all people audited by the IRS were audited because they were turned in by their ex-spouse or ex-close friend. It is like 90% of all people audited.

Interesting.

I can tell you that Machiavelli was an idiot when he said keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

He should have said keep them infront of you so you at least have a good chance of defending yourself.




And Then I get a thumb down. Fitting.

Did I get it because I answered the question, or because; the question asks something that my answer irritates people, because my answer is a side of life that is ugly but real. And that is how I get stabbed in the back. That easily.
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Answer 3

Our expectation of others not betraying us comes from Fear of Future uncertainty.
We expect cozy life and warm response, easy going in relations..

When such expectations are made from pet animals that they always behave the way they are supposed to , towards their masters, it is excused.. But making demands from Free Willing Humans to always confirm to our Expectations is asking Too much..

But human nature wishes for Future certainty from animals and other Humans...

If one knows this there will be no feeling of Betrayal.. but That Level is not reached by everyone and not one could be in that state all the time 24 x 7 x 365 .

That is why society has made a moral law to abhor the one who betrays.. but now times have changed and commitment is loosing the roots.

Once we get out the foolish idea of commitment , then no one will get shocked when betrayal comes.. basically idea of committed ,committing is nothing but a one kind refined form of slavery..

Enjoy the togetherness so far it goes.. then if other feels to be away let it be so..

the saying ... You set free the bird, if it comes back ,receive , if it does not , it was not yours..

Answer 4

Having people betray you. Beckon it into your life.
Are you sure, you wanted to frame that question that way or would you like to rephrase it ?
Reason because I haven't quite come across anybody so far, who looks forward to people betraying them.
Well, if you are keen on being betrayed, how about considering me as your trusted friend, and give me a chance at betraying you.
I haven't as yet betrayed anyone and would like to experience how it feels betraying others ;-)

Answer 5

Experience

Answer 6

If you learn from it, you begin to live a more honest life. You come to accept people with all their warts and pimples and other malformations of body, spirit and soul. People are what they are. As you have you have your cross to bear, so too, do they. You gard your person, your emotions and your thoughts that you may weather whatever others or life may toss your way. You come to depend more on yourself, than on others.

Answer 7

You learn to trust gut instinct about people.
So the answer is learning.

I set myself up for betrayal by trusting someone I suspected of dishonesty (gut instinct) by giving the benefit of the doubt. I'm a lot more carefull now. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

Answer 8

It gives me a reminder that we are all human and provides me with an opportunity to forgive. I do believe we attract everything into our lives. The hard things are for lessons, the good things for rewards! peace.

Answer 9

i get to turn off a pain that is very challanging to turn off. se la via

Answer 10

yeah, for me is the distance i have to draw with them and guarding myself