My girlfriend is 4 1/2 months pregnant and she acts like she doesn't want to be held or loved on. I have always longed for touchy feely kind of stuff and she doesn't want it. I have to always have to tell her I love her first and when I tell her, why don't you ever tell me first, she tells me, sorry I don't act the way you want me to act. We are fighting now and I need you opinion. I am probably in the wrong, I know that. Thanks!!
2007-08-29 16:21:13 · 6 answers · asked by BIG FRIENDLY 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course not! But you have to remember that
a) She's pregnant. Some pregnant women kinda turn into hormonal monsters - they can't help it, and they don't always know it.
b) People express love in different ways. Has she always been this way, or has this changed with the pregnancy? (if so - again, see a)
c) Maybe she doesn't realize what you need. Try to tell her calmly one day she's feeling alright that sometimes you worry that she doesn't love you anymore, and that's hard for you. Tell her that you understand that she's going through some huge changes right now, but that you need her to let you know how she feels about you sometimes.
d) Ask her what makes her feel good in your relationship, and if there's anything you can do to make her feel better - maybe she needs to feel loved, too, just in different ways.
e) Keep in mind, that you if are referring to sex - don't push her - at all. Tell her that you are feeling a little unsure of her wants and needs in that area at this point, and that you don't want to make her feel pushed or cornered. If she feels sort of guilty for withholding physical stuff - she might relax and feel better if you call it like it is and let her know that you're cool with that. If she truly believes and feels that you adore her and love her even though she might not have much to give you right now, trust me, it will be easier for her to reach out to you.
2007-08-29 16:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by carnelionne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You put alot of effort into this girl and it looks like she put barely any effort into the realtionship. It's high school puppy love from your end. I know you really care for her, but she's not ready for that. She wants to live her own life but at the same time wants you there when she needs you. I don't think she cares about you as much as you do to her. The parent situation is really not helping either. But if she did really care like she insists, she would cross some lines to prove how much she cares. It seems like you are also telling her to choose between you and her friends. Not cool. This solution might help: Do your own activities (hang with they guys, sports, etc) and dedicate one or two days during the week for just you and her (if she can get out). If she finds this as too much or can not live up to it after a few months, move on dog.
2016-05-17 04:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by ester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not wrong at all. In fact it's very sweet you want those things. She may be tempermental because she's pregnant. That goes with the territory it may not all be her. It could be just hormones but you have the right to be loved by your girlfriend. You also deserve to have at least some type of physical sign of affection. She should be able to cuddle with you or hold your hand at least for a small amount of time during the day. You deserve it!
2007-08-29 16:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was she like this before the pregnancy? When I was pregnant with my kids I didn't want to be held or to snuggle, I don't know why. But maybe that's just the way she is, And no you are not in the wrong for wanting to cuddle and be loved, You fell in love with her for the person she is right? My boyfriend always says he loves me first, I love him but I am kinda insecure about my feelings and I don't want to be hurt, We have been together for going on three years now and I know in my heart he is not going to hurt me, But the fear is always there, So just be there for her and reassure her that you will always love her. You guys will be just fine.
2007-08-29 16:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's pregnant. Pregnant women aren't the most pleasant of women. Don't take it personally. Imagine yourself growing a person in your body.
2007-08-29 18:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is going to get big and miserable having a baby is hard to have you lose your figure and its horrible really. i mean the baby is part which makes it good but you have to be standing by her not fighting with her. it can be hard but shes in PMS big time till she has the baby so be gently
2007-09-02 15:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋