My family got a trailer in May this year. I was allowed to invite friends to come up once in awhile. I had been emailing a certain friend from the trailer one weekend on a Sunday, saying that my friend might be able to come up on Thursday (we were going home the next day then returning on Thurs as my parents needed to work). I asked her to check with her mom and give me a headsup if she thought she could go. On Tuesday I told her she could definitely come & asked her to call saying if she could. That night, she phoned & said she was sorry but she couldn't come. I said okay and phoned another friend who was able to go. An hour later, the first friend phoned back & said now she could go. I explained to her that I was sorry but had already arranged plans with another friend as she had said she couldn't go. She asked me if I could cancel with that friend and I apologized but said that I had already arranged it with that friend. Her mom got very mad & said I was a bad friend for doing...
2007-08-29 15:47:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that to her daughter, and I hadn't communicated properly. I offered to have her come up another time but her mom said no, that she would be too disappointed because I would probably do the same thing again. Is this fair? Did the mom overreact? Was it my fault? Thanks to all who answer.
2007-08-29 15:48:31 · update #1
It doesn't seem fair to me. The mom should have just said that it wasn't convenient and it clearly wasn't working out, and she should have been grateful that you were offering to take her daughter somewhere, even if it didn't go according to plan.
XOXO,
Laurie
2007-08-29 15:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As you describe it, I don't think you were at fault, since she had already said no.
In the future though, you might keep in mind that when this girl's mom says no, she may change her mind in a minute. And don't assume she really won't let your friend come another time. You've already seen how quick she can change her mind.
Next time you could try being more clear, maybe say you have to know for sure before a certain time, because you need to make other plans if she can't come. But if this doesn't work, just try to get along with the girl's mom but don't take it personally if she is erratic; that's not your fault.
2007-08-29 23:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was unfair of the mother because it was her fault for changing her mind. Its not your fault that you wanted to hang out with friends and when one friend couldnt come you invited another. When you make a commitment (or lack of) its unfair to everyone else to change your mind. Your not a bad friend.
2007-08-29 22:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sonja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That wasn't fair of her. Next time you see the mother, please explain to her what happened. Invite this friend another weekend, but don't invite anyone else.
Srry I can't say more, I gotta go....
2007-08-29 22:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋