I have been with this man for 9 years and our sex life is awful. We do it once a week on Sat. nights and that is it. I have tried everything to get him in the mood. Leave notes, txt him, porn, I even lost 40lbs but he still won't put out. He told me not to pressure him. I know that he isn't cheating on me. I am in my late 20's and I want sex all the time. I am worse then men I think when it comes to playing with myself.
2007-08-29 14:43:52 · 11 answers · asked by nurse2008 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I think you need to try something you haven't tried before (really dirty lingerie, introduce fruit/whipped cream into your sex life, use a sex toy in front of him. do a strip tease). And don't do it at all on a Saturday night - pick a different nite - his body has been conditioned to expect it on that night - uncondition him....I do have a problem w/ "he told me not to pressure him." I'm sorry but who says that to their wife? that different than "honey, i'm not in the mood TONIGHT." it doesn't sound right to me, I would look into that more if I were you especially if he seems distant, unaroused, disinterested in general etc. on top of that statement. good luck!
2007-08-29 15:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by camillabrightside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem sometimes with my husband. I am also in my twenties and want sex all of the time. I find that porn, txting, love notes ... do not work.
The only thing that seems to get him in the mood is to shower, shave, and put on lingerie. Then I walk up to him and kiss his neck and rub all over him (except THERE yet). Just don't give up. Somtimes it takes me a while to get him excited.
2007-08-29 15:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Renee O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he been to the doctor lately? This sounds like a health problem of some kind, and he should get a physical and tell his doctor that his sex drive is low. He could have low testosterone, but he could also have diabetes or some other libido-lowering illness. Or depression. Low sex drive is often a symptom of something else.
2007-08-30 03:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok it sounds like you have a case of Peg Bundy.
Sorry Bad Joke.
But seriously gurl everyones beautiful so you are to just grab his penis through his pants when hes working hard at something (like papers or something) and just start rubbing him up and down than rip your top off only to reveal lingerae and unzip him and just start rubbing him everywhere eventually put it in your mouth. Men love blow jobs when its soft!
Sorry this was a bit vulgar but it will work!
I hope you get a better love life, and dont forget you are beautiful just the way you are so its not you, its him.
2007-08-29 19:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing you need to stop making it a regular thing. don't have it so that sex is planned, just wait and let the sex happen whenever ya'll both want it, it will most definitely better when its not a regular planned thing. Also, maybe you can try more things than just sex besides the things you have said, try more foreplay like things, maybe try things like sexual toys and stuff, and if you are both up for it, you could try bringing someone else in to sex whether it be another man or woman depending if he is willing to try it. Or you could always pleasure him and get him ready for sex by maybe giving him head and maybe try sticking a finger or so up his anus, this doesn't mean that he is gay but it has been proven to help sopme men to either orgasm or be ready for sex.
2007-08-29 15:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by а●м℅²°¹² 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are quite normal. he is not normal or some thing els. i iwll just say that "why you was not married to me" i want sex all the time....oh nature is so cruel
2007-08-29 22:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by PHD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u ever seen rescue me? if u have just do what shelia did to tommy. slip him some sleeping pills and viagra......then i think u know what to do
2007-08-29 15:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by WYATT H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to him naked and rip off his clothes... You should get him excited...
2007-08-29 15:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is gay. How have you stayed with him for nine years?!
2007-08-29 15:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not attracted to you, sexually. Can you live with that? What's your next move?
2007-08-29 14:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋