How to overcome my shyness in high school?

Question

I have a hard time meeting people in high school because, I don't talk! I don't know what i'm afraid of. Being rejected? Not to say I don't have any friends, I just can't seem to open up and have a conversation with new people. This year especially since most of my friends aren't in my classes. I'm so mad at myself. I want to open up, but I can't. I just want to act myself in school and feel comfortable. I can't seem to walk up to someone and start a conversation. Whats wrong with me?

Answer 1

i was very shy in high school too, in fact one can argue 10 years later i still am, i think what helped iwth me in those situations where i was in a class with none of my friends was group work where it allowed you to open up a bit, or forced to anyways, and meet new people that way

over time my shyness grew away and i felt more comfortable as time went by

as for fear of rejection, unfortunately its gonna happen at some point just start with the mindset just not caring what others think and just to be yourself....which can be hard in the high school society/mentality of social life and what not

Answer 2

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How to overcome my shyness in high school?
I have a hard time meeting people in high school because, I don't talk! I don't know what i'm afraid of. Being rejected? Not to say I don't have any friends, I just can't seem to open up and have a conversation with new people. This year especially since most of my friends...

Answer 3

I think the number 1 fear of almost every people in the world is rejection. But if you contemplate on it for a long time,then maybe there's something wrong. Try practicing small talks with strangers. Feed yourself about current events and stay updated. Afterwards you can try on approaching your classmate and just ask any open ended questions. Concentrate on what the other end is saying and don't think too much of those uncomfortable thoughts that's creeping inside your head.

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Answer 6

I know exactly where your coming from!..I'm starting highschool too. I can't seem to talk to new people at all, its been like this for all my life. I have some really good friends and thoose are pratacly the only ppl i can talk to. I even have trouble talking to family members, i get really nervous. The thing is even if someone else thats new talks to me, i get scared and i panic. Something what helps me is to not look the person directly in the eyes, but dont try to look like you don't care either. I also try to make sure some of my friends are there with me when im actually talking to someone new, so that i won't feel so alone.

The thing is when ppl tell you to just be yourself and be positive it doesnt really help. Because you are shy you need tips and procedures.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Same problem! I totally understand you. Most of my friends aren't in my class this year either. People don't know the real me, but when i've become friends with them, it's like im a totally different person outgoing, fun, and interesting. Just try not to worry, come up to someone you think looks nice and neat and greet them and ask their name.Try to make small talk (you'll have to sometime, so why not just get over it and make a new friend)? Then when you have a project with partners or something you can nicely ask them to be your partner.If they don't like you it's definately their loss. What i'm saying is start out small, and grow TALL. (Oh, and remember don't be afraid to go up to them, TRUST ME, THEY WON'T BITE!)

Answer 8

just be yourself. dont care what others think of you. people will start talking to you more and make friends. thats what i do and that seems to be the easiest way. and if your scared of rejection think about it this way..thers probably 1000+ people in your school. do you think all those 1000 people will reject you? if one person rejects you, just move on and go find someone else.

Also if you have a friend that is outgoing go make some new friends with your outgoing friend. just have your outgoing friend do all the talking and u can slip in a few sentences while your friend talks.

Or another easy way is on msn tell all your contacts to add all the people online in one convo so you can talk to people that you never talk to at school. and its pretty fun and yeah.

Answer 9

I used to be like that up till about 3 years ago.

Build confidence in yourself; any way you can.
To start a conversation or get someones attention, make a funny comment in class or listen to people when they speak. Look them eye to eye.

Answer 10

dont worry, some of us like that. you can try to join some clubs, such as theatre or music groups. you will meet new people and will have new things to share and talk about. it really works. give it a try.