Should i have sex or not?

Question

Ok im 15.
Ive had it before.
Ive been dating a lad for 3 weeks and he want sex.
Should i do it?

Answer 1

No. If you're in the UK then its actually illegal so either one of you could get prosecuted. But apart from that 3 weeks isn't long enough to build up a loving, trusting and honest relationship with someone, to make sure they really care about you... you've got your whole life to have sex, why rush it now? If this guy really likes you he'll be totally ok with you waiting. If he gets upset or angry then he's not worth your time.

Answer 2

Your underage sweetie. Even if you've done it before, the guy will be raping you. It's called statutory rape. Have some more self respect. If you go round sleeping with guys, you'll get a reputation as a whore. Concentrate on your studies, it'll pay off in the end. There will be time to have your boyfriends etc.

Don't go asking us if you should be having sex, you know what the right decision is. What the real question is, is if you'll hold out and stick to your guns.

Good Luck.

Regards;
Vicky x

Answer 3

Only If YOU Want to! If he wants a girl that's easy then maybe you need to tell him he's not right for you. You may like him a lot but he should not pressure you - that's wrong!
If you think you are ready to be with him you wouldn't have come to us for help. Remember boys only think about Themselves so you have to think about Yourself because he's not going to. He's pressuring you for something He Wants. Don't worry about him leaving you if he doesn't get it. What if he leaves you just because he did get it from you? He might be playing you to see how long it will take to get in your pants!! It happened to me once before and I was very careful with guys after that. I'm 29 and I still have trust issues...big ones! Another time I found out a guy was flirting with me because he had a bet with his friends that he could get me (in bed). I was not a pass around girl, I was always very self-respecting with sex. It hurt my feelings very badly, because I am not the type to hand it out.
Please make him respect you. Three weeks is such a short amount of time.

Answer 4

first of all you are underage, so really you shouldn't be having sex at all. its called statutory rape.

second, if you were to have sex, you shouldn't do it unless you are 100% sure about it.

don't ever let someone pressure you into having sex. 3 weeks really isn't even that long to get to know someone.

honestly, i'm 25 and i've never had sex. and i'm perfectly happy not to until i've met a guy who i think is nice enough and trustworthy enough to have a commited relationship with. its not a religious choice, its just a choice. and nobody i know who's worth knowing judges me for it.

most people aren't like me though, and thats cool. but seriously, at any age, you shouldn't sleep with someone if you're not totally sure you're ready to sleep with him.

i've heard of plenty of cases where the guy dumps the girl once he gets what he wants. if he wants sex after only 3 weeks, how do you know he's not only dating you because he's heard you've done it before? how do you know he's not only with you because he thinks he's guarantee'd to get sex from you?

if you have to ask a bunch of strangers online if you should have sex, then i'd say you shouldn't. don't make a choice you think you might regret.

Answer 5

Sweetheart you are fifteen years old and a boy you have only known wants to have sex with you, in your position I would say no it is illegal to have intercourse under the age of 16 years. It is you body and when you want to have sex surely you would want to know the other person longer than 3 weeks, how do you know that after having sex with you he wont decide that he has had enough of you and see`s some body else.

If you decide that you want to have sex with him at make sure he is wearing a condom so that you reduce the risk of an unplanned pregnancy or the chance of getting std

Answer 6

NO NO NO!!!!

make him wait, build up tention, and make it worth the waiting, dont give it to him like its easy.. and also 3 weeks is nothing, and guy should wait, so you can build up trust, love and respect to each other, if you dont have that, than its not worth it..

also your only 15, you should wait, live life a little before going into such serious thing, I know alot of girls that were talked into having sex when they were as old as 13, and they ALL got pregnant, so please dont waist ur life, wait a few years..

Answer 7

Technically he commits an offence. This law is there for your protection, because he may be using you and you need protection. More fool you if you choose not to make use of this protection. It you have already had a sexual partner(s) before this chap you are already becoming a candidate for HPV, google it, its a virus which caused cervical cancer and is commonest in girls who have sex with multiple partners from a young age. I am old and boring but I believe someday you might regret the lifestyle choices you seem to be making.

Answer 8

By asking that question, you obviously have doubts. Don't do it unless you're absolutely sure you know you want to -- and for the right reasons. Having sex with someone is a very personal and emotional experience that you share with someone special. Doing it with everyone you date will only cause it to lose its meaning. Since this shows that you're putting some thought into it, I know you'll wait until the time is right.

Answer 9

No, no, no! You're 15, you've only known him 3 weeks and after you've had sex, guarranteed he'll dump you.
Don't be too quick offering something really precious to a boy you hardly know and who no doubt will not understand or appreciate it for what it is.

Answer 10

No, do not do it. Three weeks is too soon in a relationship to even consider having sex. Too, sex should be initiated between two adults, it is not something adolescents should engage in because of the emotional repercussions (i.e., the guys do the 'wham bam thank you mam' thing - leaving a girl when he is 'tired' of her, and the guilt you may feel you didn't save yourself for marriage).