I'm talking about fishing weekends with his friends and going out of town for work. I trust him, I do so i dont understand why I get so emotional ... Mad ... crying .,...
2007-08-29 10:54:01 · 9 answers · asked by Shawn G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I kind of understand. I've had the same feelings from time to time. It's not really jealousy or insecurity... it's just the feeling of being left out and sometimes a little resentment that I end up being left with the kids.
Do you do fun things together- just the two of you??? I've noticed that as long as my hubby and I plan outings together I am much more chipper about him going out and doing "guy stuff". It doesn't bother me nearly as much. Give it a try and see if you start to feel better.
2007-08-29 11:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by meglet628 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you pregnant? Hormones can make us moody, and sometimes things get blown out of proportion.
Maybe you feel that he doesn't consider your feelings in making these plans? Whenever my husband makes plans to do something, he will always ask me first. Not that I would EVER say no - he gets a green light to do pretty much whatever strikes his fancy - but the fact that he includes me in his decision-making process shows respect, and satisfies my need to be acknowledged. I actually like it when he does something on his own, that means I can have the "me" time, too. But I don't think I would be too happy if he was simply informing me about his decisions with no regard to how I might feel about this or that.
2007-08-29 11:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get upset because you realize that he would rather spend time doing those things than be with you.
As long as he does spend time with you, a little "away" time never hurt anyone. If he is spending *every* weekend away from you, then there is a serious problem that needs to be addressed.
The next time he is out for the weekend, call your friends and go out with them.
2007-08-29 11:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can be jealous of his time away without worrying that he is cheating on you. If you truly aren't worried about what he is doing while he is away, then I would guess that you are feeling like you aren't getting enough of his time/attention when he is home, and you feel helpless and frustrated when you know that he is going to be sharing good times with another group. Perhaps instead of getting so angry and possibly chasing him out to his friends more quickly, you should take a bit of time to analyze why you feel that way, explain it to him, and see if there are things that you can do together to satisfy your needs to be closer to him as well as his needs to have personal time with the guys.
2007-08-29 11:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by Breanna C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel that since you two are married, it should be a package deal, the "We Syndrome"?
You may not necessarily WANT to go, but the consideration to ask would be nice and all you really want.
2007-08-29 11:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by christyn79 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not missing much on the fishing trips hun, get your self some new hobbies, go out with your friends more!
2007-08-29 11:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you want to have fun with him and he wants to have fun with his buddies. Because you feel left out. Maybe you think he thinks you're not fun to be with or you think he likes work more than you.
Time to have a chat. Good luck...
2007-08-29 11:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be because you want to feel like you are a part of "his world" i dont think that he is intentionally trying to leave you out of his plans--he probably is grateful that he is able to do these things and have you to come home to...
2007-08-29 11:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a life of your own?
2007-08-29 11:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋