It's not that I want to be married to him (as far as that goes she can have him) it's more of that I lost in some way because he got married first, and somehow he replaced me with someone who isn't even pretty....I don't know, I think I'm weird....
2007-08-29 10:32:27 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess in a way is normal... But if he left you for her then it means he didn;t appreciate what he had at home & believe me he will regreted ..as for you just take your time forget about him or him getting married.. Life your life have fun enjoy & sooner or later you will find out your better half..
I got divorce because he cheated on me 8 yrs ago I was pregnant at that time so I decide to live my baby was born & we signed the divorce papers after a month of being divorce he got married after few months we "called" me see how our daugther was BUT he always told me that he made a big mistake that his still now wife didn't cared for him Or cared for his stuff.. A close relative told me the same thing that she was very jelous & control freak and that she was not a house wife they had to go out & eat every day & he was the one who did the laundry .. Plus he doesn't allowed him to see or pick up our daugther which is to sad because I find out he is a good for nothing & a looser .. How come if he did had everything with me he changed me for a good for nothing plus not good looking.. So I decide to move on live my life & had fun & found a good man now we have being married for 5 yrs & I have a happy life after all ,, Plus my daugther have a dad ( my hubby) that loves her & care for her like her own ... SO stop being jelous you will see he will pay sooner or later just remember what goes around comes around.. GOOD LUCK & BEST WISHES !!
2007-08-29 11:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually yes , cause you evaluate your ex partner according to beauty only , although the fact that beauty vary from one to another and has no fixed measure unless you are in miss universe contest.
Second you didn't lose my dear . The fact of your ex getting married first doesn't make you any difference , skip this fact and think objectively, it was both of you or at least one of you who take the decision of divorce and the other agree. I mean you win in both cases ,cause sure you deserve the life you dream of and a man who find in you all the hope and happiness of life.
If you didn't marry before him doesn't mean that you are less pretty than your ex's new wife , it only indicates that you didn't find the one who you deserve and that you take benefit of the past experience and the next choice will be wiser and much more better.
Finally , hope you concentrate more on improving your life and believe that your ex will remain the same and he had and will never changed and the things you hate in him had been accepted by another person , not because this person is better than you , but simply because it is different than you . Many people in my country like mango very much and consider it the best , but i don't like it , not because it s not tasty or because i have no taste , no , it is simply that i don't like mango.
2007-08-29 17:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Nina R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's unusual, because you two are no longer together. You don't seem to have any kids by this guy either so I don't understand why this is a problem to you. Take a page from his book and move on, and get your personal life together. If he married a woman that is less attractive than you, then that is his choice. I, however think you still want him in some way or else you wouldn't ask this question.
2007-08-29 17:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say it's pretty normal, after all, ending a relationship always involves some type of ego, even if you know that you weren't meant to be together. You can even be happy for your ex and still feel a bit bruised that he found something somewhere you weren't able to.
You aren't weird, and it sounds like you are taking a healthy perspective on it by recognizing how you feel and recognizing that it isn't based on anything real.
2007-08-29 17:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Breanna C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I think it is normal, My ex husband and his girlfriend just had a baby boy, and even though i have a lil girl a few months older than his i still had a hint of jealousy, mainly because he used almost the exact name we had picked for our baby we had lost we had picked Brenden Heath and he named his baby Bregan Heath, the DI*K, I only think it bothered me because that was something we had shared while we were still young and in love, also i know about the "ugly new woman" his new GF Is not only ugly but huge, there are several big and beautiful women in the world but she missed the beautiful part, even though i would be mad if she were prettier than me, it also gets me that she is UGLY!!!
2007-08-29 17:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard when you have been intimate with someone and you have to let go or they let go of you. I know I would be jealous if I found my ex had got married (and he must have by now!). Looks don't matter as much as how the person is on the inside.
2007-08-29 17:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i totally understand what you mean my freind just got married no we never dated but i was in puppy love and he liked me a great deal . But we just never got together and when he invited me to his wedding i found every excuse under the sun of why i couldnt come . I mean im happy with my boy friend and we have a one month old together but the fact that he got married is just wow . And its in a way a slap to the face
2007-08-29 17:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I kind of pity the woman he married.
She really doesn't know what she got herself into! She's about 12 years younger than him and probably twice as mature as he is.
She seems like a nice person and I hope he treats her better than he treated me.
But then, I moved on before he did. I married someone else years ago and really haven't looked back.
2007-08-29 17:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by hypno_toad1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always hope that your ex will suffer, at least a little bit.
It is perfectly natural to feel this way. Just don't tell him how you are feeling or go cut the new wife's tires or something! LOL! Just be glad he is off your hands for good!
2007-08-29 17:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by Really now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel! It's okay to feel that way. It's not that your jealous of the new girl or being weird..it's just natural. You can't help but be a little uncomfortable with it.
2007-08-29 17:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by michellev519 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋