do you think its a mistake to get married early?

Question

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Answer 1

I got married at 16. Most miserable failure of a marriage I have ever seen. Walked away heartbroken, yet wiser.

Answer 2

Most of the time, yes. Some couples get married very young and stay married forever, but that's not usually the case. I had a teenage marriage. Well, I was the teenager and he was 10 years older than me. We had trouble from the start, but I tried very hard to make it work. I finally divorced him about 7 years later. Thankfully, we had no children. Still, by that time, I had missed a lot of opportunities in life ... like the opportunity to go to college, travel, date, have fun, get a career going, save money, etc. Sure, you can do all those things later in life, but it's not that easy when you're working a full-time job to pay the rent. Also, by the time I got divorced, my friends were beginning to settle down and start families. I was totally out of sync with them.

If you think you've found Mr. Right, give it a lot of thought before you marry. Think of every situation! Then, if you still feel like he's the right one, go ahead.

Answer 3

I think it's a mistake to get married at all.

Marriage is like taking a bath. It's nice when you first get in, but after a while it's not so hot.

The problem is, you rarely know a person well enough before marriage and too well after you are married. And, people change over the years. Sometimes they grow to love one another more, but more often they grow apart and learn that the old saying about that fine line is true.

Don't rush into anything as serious as marriage. No one should marry before they're 60 and then only with the consent of their grandparents.

Answer 4

No. If you are happy that way then it is not a problem.

However, in my case I got married late. OK I made a more serious parent and we had the resources to give our kids the best. But, hey, you cannot buy time back no matter how much money you have.

I envy young parents because they mature with their children and by the time the children are adults the parents are still young enough to go out there with youth and vigor to live the rest of their lives to the hilt.

Answer 5

Generally, YES, absolutely. Sure, some people will make it through and have a successful marriage, but at such a young age I would think far more people would have failed marriages. Have you ever watched MTV's Engaged and Underage show? They're all just kids, and they bicker and fight and are clearly uncomfortable with many aspects of the relationship and the commitment that comes with marriage. I think it's a terrible idea.

Answer 6

I had a cousin who married a girl he had known since about the 6th grade. They married as late teens. Neither had dated anyone else in their lives. In a few years they split up just as all the aunts and uncles had predicted (but never said out loud).

He was my poster child for "it's a mistake to get married early."

Answer 7

Well, if you are an adult, then that is a decision that only you can make. If you want my opinion, then I think as long as someone is older than 20, and in love, then I suppose it is a good age to tie the knot. If you are gonna get married, Angel Eyes, then don't forget to invite your buddy, the Bandit. Peace!

Answer 8

YES!!!!!!!!!!! You usually don't really know yourself until your 30s at least and your world view and many of your beliefs will most likely change by then from when you're 16 or 18 or 21, if not completely reverse. Is your spouse from 18 years old going to change with you??? At 18 you're just a parrot of your parent or friends; you're still just modeling behavior from whoever influences you. In most cases anyway.

Answer 9

Yes...it is a mistake. Marriage should not be entered into quickly....it is important for both people to know who they are before they attach themselves to someone for the rest of their lives...

NOW...having said that...I married at 19...it was hard...but 25 years later, we are still together and far more "in love" than we were when we were younger.

Answer 10

Yes. I got married at 16, divorced at 19. I'm been with my current guy for 15 years and have told him that I'll never get married again. I had to pay for the divorce btw.