please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

how do i tell my mom that im bi i have a girlfriend and i really love her so how do i tell my mom that im bi she's a strict christian and im afriad to tell her plus ive been cutting my wrists over it please help!!!!!

i just turned 17 a month ago

Answer 1

darlin, i aggree with them on the honesty, it's really the best way to go, no matter the age, situation, religion, anything, honesty is best.

the prez wasn't honest about how long we were gonna be in iraq, now what's his aproval rating? weather big or small, the majority of the people belive that honesty is best.

and christians are supposed to love all people, no matter race, gender, beliefs, choices, the whole goal of a christian is supposed to fill the world with love, so what if your love makes you like the same gender, love is love, and true love is what really saves people.

also if you showed her a few of these questions (even if only in .txt format) then i'm shure she would understand. if you did the .txt thing then you could even edit them so she only gets the parts you want her to hear.

no matter how strict of a christian she is, remember johnny cash, "your fans are christians johnny, they don't want to hear you playing in some jail trying to cheer up murderers and rapists." "then they aren't christian." a christion loves ALL people, no matter their choice.

just tell her straight out (while holding your GF's hand might help) "mom, i'd like you to meet my girlfriend ... who i'm in love with." or another way is to be all casual about it with a nice little "looks a bit cloudy today ... i'm bi. well i guess i'll see ya tonight, i'm off to hang out with my friends."

she may be a bit startled, but she will eventually thank you for your honesty. probabally in less than a year ;) i hope you can figure out how to tell her, and hunny, please stop cutting, those scars usually stick around, what you should do next time you want to cut is get a hug, its the exact same effect, but it heals scars instead of making them, ok?

Answer 2

Honesty will set you free. If your mother loves you for who you are then why not tell her. Don't cut your wrist it will only leave battle scars. You will feel a whole lot better, once you've told her. Now the outcome can come in two fashions. She can either accept you and you guys can come closer than before or she can be in denial and totally do something you may not want her to do. All in all, if you keep holding this in, it will affect you for the rest of your life. It is like you are living a lie to your mother and do you want your mother to go through this and yourself? I honestly would tell her. A good way to tell her is to go on a trip or sleep over at a friends and leave a letter for her. She will read it and will have time to think about it and maybe she will come around. I hope the best for you.

Wishing you the best of luck.

Answer 3

First, please stop cutting yourself. It is dangerous and does nothing for you. I'm not trying to judge. In fact, I did it myself when I was younger. I finally figure out that it was not a good thing to do.

I don't know that there is any easy way to tell your mother. You may just have to be strong, put it out there and let her react the way she is going to react. Hopefully she will be understanding because you are her daughter. However, you have to be prepared for a negative reaction. Be strong. She is your mother, but you have to make some of the decisions about your life. This is not just a feeling or a faze, it is who you are and it is important for your mother to see that.

When I was 16, I had to tell my mother I was pregnant. That was one of the hardest things I have ever done. She was so upset, pissed and disappointed and it hurt me. But she continued to support me and love me. I think(hope) that your mother will eventually come around, because she does not want to lose you.

I wish you the best of luck. Be strong. You have a right to be who you are.

Answer 4

know that u r who u r and nomatter what ur mom will love u. there will be other people in this world who will judge u but being honest is the best thing u can do for ur self. cutting ur wrists will not change anything.... life is painful, u r a young women and should live up to it, u just told millions on yahoo ur secret what r u afraid of, be strong and know that only god can judge u....

Answer 5

In a Christian too... she probably wont be ok with it se will probably make u see some 1 about it like ur pastor or some 1 but... all u need to do is say - mom i need to talk to u i have this problem or... thing thats serious and i want to talk to u about it... - now if u say it that way she probably wont blow up in ur face or any thing but se will be very uncomfortable abot it at fist... and with that being said i dont mean that she will except ur decion about it but... any ways hopes this helps...

demonboi99

Answer 6

Well I think you know you have to stop cutting. Since you find telling her hard to do, perhaps the best approach is to just be completely out front about it, and say "mom, i'm bisexual". From there, the conversation is already going.

Answer 7

Your mom won't like it, but I'm pretty sure she'd rather you were involved with a girlfriend than to have you cutting yourself. I'm a "strict" christian too, and though I wouldn't like either one, I'd definitely prefer the gf. Please stop hurting yourself!

Answer 8

my parent is strict Christian too just sit her down and that you bi and you have girlfriend

Answer 9

Honesty is the best policy! Hurting yourself isnt going to make it any easier! I am a mom, and I would much rather have my child be honest with me than hurt themself! Talk to your mom!

Answer 10

go see a Doctor and get some serious help...before things really get worse your not supposed to cut what belongs inside