i have a friend I met six months ago and we became best buddies but then I developed a major crush and fell for him. We are both gay so he wasn't taken aback (much).
He didn't mind but then I went overboard and sent him loads of emails and texts, some of them over-the-top romantic and some completely mean. I was a basket case for a few weeks.
He is really annoyed and hurt as I have made some quite serious comments and criticisms about him and his lifestyle.
Went to Doc and he says I have been suffering from depression and hypo-mania and has prescribed me a short course of tranquillizers. (No opinions on diagnosis or prescribed meds please!)
Is there any way I can apologize and make amends to my friend? The idea of losing his friendship is heartbreaking. As it stands, I have lost the friendship but does anyone know of a good way to resurrect it and make peace with him?
(I am getting over the crush. I knew it would be temporary so a friendship would not be a problem on that score)
2007-08-29 09:58:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I like the idea of waiting about a month and then sending him a really nice gift and a card with a note of sincere apology and an explanation
What does everyone think of that?
2007-08-29 11:13:13 · update #1
Boy, that didn't sound like a crush, you sounded like a love sick puppy. Bless yer peapickin heart. :(
Love, and strong feelings, can make you do some very stupid things. Even trying to hurt the ones you love and care for because they rejected and hurt you. I understand, dearest.
Eventually, should your friend be a good friend, he'll forgive you and allow you to come back into his life. Right now he's probably pushing you away because 1. He's not interested in that kind of relationship with you and 2. He's afraid of what else you might say. Show him that all you want is him in your life, regardless of what capacity. I think he'll come around.
Good luck. My heart goes out to ya - we all do stupid things sometimes.
2007-08-29 10:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by gochefs (Geo) 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You took the best step possible. You addressed it and now are treating it. Talk to your friend. Let him know that you were completely in the wrong and that you see the mistakes that you made. That through this new understanding, you realized that having his friendship was more important than anything else. Ask him for his forgiveness and let him know that if he allows you back into your life, that you invite him to be honest with you and tell you if you ever start to behave in a similar manner again.
Friendships are salvageable. Good luck.
2007-08-29 17:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by realangst 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply send a letter in the mail, yes stamped...and write:
Sorry Dude, Had a little medical problem, I lost it but the Doc is getting me back on track. I am embarrassed I went off the deep end. Hope we can resume our friendship. See ya,
2007-08-29 17:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go to him, tell him that you were being creepy and that you are sorry. You might want to tell him about the depression and hypo-mania as well, so he knows that they were partially responsible, but don't try to shift all of the blame onto them!
2007-08-29 17:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by boring.freak2 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you know where he lives, HAND WRITE a note and slip it into his mailbox or under his door, then leave.
Go to a coffee shop or home or the mall or somewhere you wont dwell on the thought.
explain yourself, your feelings, your asking for fogiveness, and apologize.
then leave your number, your email, and your home address.
and wait for contact. if he calls you or whatever, TAKE IT SLOW!
2007-08-29 17:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter saying everything you said here, and apologize and ask him for forgiveness. Ask him if he would give you a second chance as a friend.
Good luck to you.
2007-08-29 17:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jess H 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell him what you told us. If he is a good friend, he will understand. It might take some time, but just keep being above board.
Good luck!
2007-08-29 17:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by plushy_bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you talk to him and tell him all that you just told us. He might want to be friends with you still, but give him time to come to terms with the whole issue.
2007-08-29 17:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say I'm Sorry and explain. Maybe right him a note, that way he can't just walk away.
2007-08-29 17:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by TiaAmanda234 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't want to be your friend anymore because of your behavior. Maybe he knows that you will act this way again, and has become tired with it all. Maybe he doesn't have the strength left to have another try at it. Maybe...it's time to let go.
2007-08-29 17:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Oberon 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋