I have a friend who lost his wife in a car accident in February of 2006. Sadley, they were still newly weds, only married for 6 weeks. About a year after the death of his wife, he started dating a long time friend (somone he had known for 10 years), and this Saturday they are getting married. That's only a year and a half after the death of his first wife, but he is very happy.
Do you think he should wait longer? Or do you think if he is happy that's all that matters. Some of his ex-inlaws have mixed emotions. They are happy, but it has been less than two years. What do you think?
2007-08-29 09:51:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's HAPPY and its not effecting YOUR life any, then why should YOU (or anyone else) care?
Just be happy that the poor man was able to find love twice in his lifetime...some people aren't lucky enough to even find it ONCE.
2007-08-29 09:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let me tell you something it depends on whether him and his first wife ever discussed this before her death. In my own words because someone has lost a love one does not mean that he should not be happy and if he is able t o find happiness . i know i wouldnt want my husband to sit around and morn me if i were married. I would want him to be happy theres know time set for someone to date or even marry he is lonely. Best of luck
2007-08-29 14:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were to put a time period on it, probably a year would
suffice. Personally, think that's a widow(er) decision that
we should MYOB with. After all, it IS a matter of grief/closure
that's the determinate.
Congratulations to the happy couple !
2007-08-29 10:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only he knows what is in his heart.... there is no reason why anyone should judge his actions.
he probably adored and loved his wife.. but there is nothing he can do. she past away and life has to go on... he probably felt comfort and peace with his friend and developed into love.
it doesn't mean that he loved his wife any less... grieving is something you wear on the inside not on the outside... he has probably had more sleepless nights than anyone knows.
be a good friend and support his decision. it doesn't seem wrong or insensitive.
2007-08-29 09:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Should he have waited? Absolutely NOT!!!!! Love is too wonderful, and being with someone lovely is toooo nice to give only once, or twice. Life is a one shot deal, you get no "overs". Grab for the gusto, and his deceased wife would agree. If I died tomorrow, I would hope mine would find a lovely lady very soon.
2007-08-29 10:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think time heals sooner for some people than others, that doesn't make it wrong. I think his wife would have wanted him to be happy and go one with his life all the while keeping her memory in his heart forever. Good for him.
2007-08-29 10:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no time limit on this.its how your heart feels when you meet someone.if the sparks are there and it grows to love it makes no diffence how long its been since the death.we only live once on this earth and too much time wasted could mean you lose out on something special.i say go for it and be happy while you can.my husband has been dead for 2 years and i'm waiting to find happiness again.
2007-08-29 09:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think one year is long enough to wait.... and in this case they were only married for six weeks, more like a fiancee dying than a spouse
2007-08-29 10:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. Of course they have mixed emotions....They have to remember their daughter...if she hadn't of died he wouldn't be getting married now would he?
Just because he is getting remarried doesn't mean that he has gotten over her or even finished greiving for her...he may never. It just means that he's found someone to spend his life with and that isn't something you can put on hold forever.
2007-08-29 10:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a tragedy, you should wait until you're lucky enough to find love again. Makes no difference how long or short that time is.
2007-08-29 09:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by barefoot_yank 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋