We live in Illinois and my ex wants to see the kids every other weekend as stated in our divorce decree. However, the decree states he is supposed to have them from 6PM Friday night to 6PM Sunday night. He can only take them during Saturday and Sunday daytimes because he is living with his dad and can't have them overnight there. Does it mean I'm denying visitation if I say that if he can't take them during the allotted time in the decree, he can't take them at all?
2007-08-29 09:49:54 · 9 answers · asked by Hanna-Banana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you try and do the "all or nothing' thing then yes, that might be construed as denying him his visitation.
I'm not sure why you would want to do this anyway. With so many fathers out there that don't give their children the time of day, I'm confused as to why you'd want to penalize both him and his children simply because of this type of circumstance.
It might not be the optimum, but at least he's trying to spend time with the children as best as he can.
2007-08-29 10:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by tg315 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-29 16:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to give him reasonal visitation..... if he can't take them overnight it doesn't mean that you can dictate all or nothing....... if you have plans that prevent you (good plans that would justify this) from having him pick them up on Saturday then you are ok. Illinois is a pretty good state for working with you. Why can't they satay the night? You would think that the grandparents would love this.
2007-08-29 10:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please work through this situation. If he truly can not have them at his Fathers house, try to make an accommodation.
They are his children as well as yours. Let the children have a relationship. His living arraignments may be temporary, and he can fulfill the agreement more in the future.
Not allowing the children to visit with the current limitations is punishing them.
2007-08-29 10:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by lori s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law states that if the parent exercising visitation is more than 30 minutes late without notifying the other parent that they will be late he/she has forfeited his/her right to visitation for that time.
Now you can interpret that two ways:
1. Your ex is a day late picking the children up so he has forfeited his right to visitation. You did not agree to the altered arrangement he presented you with.
2. He told you about it so he notified you- therefore you must let him see the children.
2007-08-29 10:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you do that? Let him see his kids. There are a lot of fathers out there that don't even bother trying to see their kids. Be reasonable. You DO NOT have to follow the visitation schedule to the letter. That is up to you, but come on! Do what's best for your kids.
2007-08-29 10:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must follow the decree to the letter. If you need to make adjustments before the court again, I too live in IL. You might be able to do this in front of a judge with out a lawyer, call the court house and find out.
2007-08-29 09:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Why can't he have them over night at his dads? Is that your say so? If there is an issue you will need to file to modify the visitation. Otherwise, if you don't you are looking at contempt.
2007-08-29 10:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are only GUIDELINES. You two can create any times that work for everyone's schedual.......
2007-08-29 09:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋